“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.” Maya Angelou
I have often talked about the choices we have in life. We all know people who seemed to be able to make the best of the challenges they have been dealt out, and others who do nothing but complain about their lot in life, even though looking on we can’t see what they have to grumble about in comparison. We all filter our experiences through the beliefs we hold about our life. A belief is the mental acceptance of a statement or fact as true. And all those messages we have gathered from our parents, teachers and other significant adults, have led us to believe certain things about our world that are ‘truths.’ However these ‘truths’ are not true for everyone else.
Next time you face something you don’t like, check on the filter of the glasses you are wearing. Could your thoughts and feelings be influenced by the voices in your head, voices of people who are no longer even alive? Notice if everyone else involved has the same reaction to your challenge. Maybe the challenge actually has a ‘lesson’ for us, if we allow ourselves to change our attitude that is no longer serving us. No one likes to listen to a complainer and as I’ve said before, complainers are victims to their outside world. As Maya Angelou says, we all have 2 choices, to change the situation or change our perspective about it.
Enjoy making those choices! Robyn
“To fear is one thing. To let fear grab you by the tail and swing you around is another.” Katherine Paterson.
Fear is a very real emotion, there to keep us safe. To stop us stepping out in front of a train at full throttle, or walking over Niagra Falls on a tight rope, when you have had no prior training.
However, to allow a perceived threat to arouse the same stress response in the body, is a complete waste of time, but most of us have probably indulged ourselves at some time or other. What we allow our minds to come up with can cause a lot of unnecessary worry, worrying over “False Evidence Appearing Real.” When we realise, that most of what we fear is based on a thought we have had, we can start to make different choices about how we feel & behave. Byron Katie, has put together what she calls, ‘The Work.’ In it she suggests that we ask ourselves 4 questions: “Is it true?” (If no go to question 3.) “Can you absolutely know that it’s true?” (yes or no) “How do you react, what happens when you believe that thought?” “Who would you be without the thought?” When you recognise that your fear is based solely on a thought and go through these 4 steps then turn your thoughts around to have a new perspective, the fear no longer controls or dominates you.
Enjoy turning those fears around! Robyn
“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I want to change myself.” Rumi
Have you got a habit that keeps rearing its head & you get the sense that you can’t change it? We all meet challenges as we journey through life. Recognising these challenges we may face when trying to make some changes to ourselves, will help us realise the futility of trying to change someone else. This is how wars start. However it is worth persevering on the changes we want to make to ourselves.
This moment is always the start of the rest of your life. What has gone before has made you the way you are now, and it doesn’t have to be the blueprint for the rest of your life. If you want something badly enough, you will be disciplined enough to listen to your why, create the thought pattern you need, get in touch with the feeling around that & initiate the action needed. Each one of these steps sends an energetic wave out into the universe and by law has to attract back an experience that reflects that. It is crucial though, that you don’t focus on the doubts and fears that may surface. They also have an energy that attracts that experience. Intentioned change is growth, so where in your life do you want to grow?
Enjoy achieving those desired changes! Robyn