“Life always gives us exactly the teacher we need at every moment. This includes every mosquito, every misfortune, every red light, every traffic jam, every obnoxious supervisor (or employee), every illness, every loss, every moment of joy or depression, every addiction, every piece of garbage, every breath. Every moment is the guru.”
– Charlotte Joko Beck
Where is our responsibility in all of this? The ‘Law of Attraction’ has a lot to answer for, we’re told. I was reminded about a story of a coach of mine, who first became introduced to the metaphysical laws when a teenager back in the 60s. She learnt that everything is created twice. The first time by our thoughts and the second by the reality. We often forget that the negative, stressful worry thoughts, attract experiences into our lives as much as the positive thoughts. So what have we been thinking that has caused the traffic jam when we’re in a hurry, the illness, the joy? It is important to recognise what part we have played in creating our present reality. The guru of each moment as Beck says, is the learning we get if we are aware.
Sounds simple doesn’t it. But like all simple ideas, it isn’t necessarily easy to keep focused on the lesson when we are immersed in the anguish of a life threatening illness or fighting with an obnoxious supervisor. What event have you had recently that has knocked you sideways and you think, “Where did that come from?” Learning to look at life’s lessons from a new perspective, can help make some breakthroughs to another awareness. This is how we grow, how we learn to stop repeating the behaviours that are not empowering us, or keeping us stuck in 3 year old behaviours.
Enjoy noticing the lessons as you go through life!
“F.E.A.R has two meanings: ‘Forget Everything And Run,’ or ‘Face Everything And Rise.’ The choice is yours.” Zig Ziglar
Whenever we fear something our body responds with the stress hormones, just as it does to worry and anxiety. These emotions are about the future and as we have no control over what happens in the future, it can be a fruitless exercise. The other thing that happens is that our frontal cortex shuts down. Our frontal cortex is responsible for our intellectual thinking that separates us from other animal species. If it shuts down we can’t ‘think straight’ and we revert to using the hindbrain as other animals do. This is how children used to be taught, in fear of the teachers strap. The normal cognitive function of our brains goes on holiday. We forget things, we get confused and our decision making processes are not as clear as they could be.
As Zig Ziglar says, we have the choice in any given moment to live in fear and worry over every little thing, or look at the facts and choose to let the stress go. Unfortunately we often look at the facts from a perspective that has been conditioned by our parents, teachers and other significant adults. I may get the same news as you, we may both worry and fear what could happen, but it could be about completely different aspects. Or then again one of us may not fear anything at all. It takes a lot of energy to cope with all those stressful hormones flooding our bodies continuously. If you’re feeling tired a lot of the time just check what you’re holding on to and recognise that changes and the desire to move forward may create some Fear. You could choose to see it as the greenlight to move towards your desires.
Enjoy ‘Rising’ through the F.E.A.R!
“Imagine what you would do if you could do all you can?” Anon
How many of you have a vision or a goal of what you want to achieve in the next few months, the next year or your lifetime? You’ve heard me rant on about the Law of Attraction, and it is a natural Law. A Law that works along with your beliefs. If you believe that you can achieve a certain thing then you will. So let me ask you, how many of you think you are achieving your potential? How many of you believe you can, really believe right down to your core?
For many of us the belief is only superficial. The conditioning of our minds from parents, teachers, siblings and others, has the core of us believing things about ourselves that aren’t true. There is another quote I could have used today from Les Brown, that amazing motivational speaker who started off in life from a very impoverished situation. But the encouragement of one teacher helped him see that his whole life didn’t have to stay that way. The quote? “Someone’s opinion of you doesn’t have to become your reality.” So really imagine or visualise what you would do if you believed that you could do all that you can. Not 30%. Not 50%. But 100%!
Enjoy doing all that you can!
“Be happy for no reason, like a child. If you are happy for a reason, you’re in trouble because that reason can be taken from you.” Anon
I have a short video clip of my grand-daughter at about 18 months old walking along laughing herself silly, she plopped on to her bottom and rolled around on the floor with her infectious laugh continuing. When I asked my daughter what she was laughing about, she said, “nothing.” I have a heard a quote about 4 year olds laughing 400 times a day but adults can only crack out 15. Of course this is an average but when did we start learning to be so serious. When did we start shutting down our ability to be ‘Happy for No Reason.’
I have talked before about the choices we have in every moment. With my work as a physiotherapist and acupuncturist I treat people with chronic pain on a regular basis. How they handle this pain varies a lot. Some are not ready to move on from the suffering and I understand how hard it must be sometimes when you are in constant pain. At the other end of the scale I have people come in who are coping with constant pain, who choose to put on a brave face, and do all they can to heal and smile through their challenges. I often wonder whether I could choose to be happy despite ‘my painful lot.’ These people are not letting their happiness be taken from them, even though living a ‘normal’ life has been.
Enjoy choosing to be happy for no reason like a child!
“Worrying does not take away tomorrow’s troubles, it takes away today’s peace.” Anon
I’m sure we all worry over something at some time. Sometimes over big things, but mostly over small inconsequential things that become bigger and bigger as we allow ourselves to engage with possibilities of ‘what if!’ All worries and fears we are told are about the future. Whether they are ‘real’ or not, our bodies respond in the same stressed way. With increased heart rate and breathing, tense muscles and increased blood pressure. This means things like digestion and the immune system are not getting the attention they need. If this goes on for any length of time, those systems not getting attention, start ‘misbehaving.’
So rather than taking away troubles in the future it could in fact be increasing them, while at the same time preventing us living a life of peace and calm in the moment. Do you have a daily practice of sitting quietly without the phone, television or other interruptions? A time to focus on the breath as it goes in & out of the body bringing life to all our cells. A time to resist the worry thoughts spinning but not judging if they do. Criticising ourselves because we haven’t done something ‘properly’ is not helpful. Let me know how you feel, as you let go of the tension created by worry, fear and anxiety.
Enjoy the worry-free peace of today!