Monthly Archives: November 2015

Are You Wasting the Person You Are?



“To wish you were someone else is to waste the person you are”

An energy healer named Carol Tuttle wrote a book called, “It’s Just my Nature.” She had found that people came to see her to ‘fix’ them, when what she thought they should be doing, was to accept who they are. She found that we all fit into 4 groups like a lot of the psychological groupings and she related them to the properties of Hydrogen, Oxygen, Nitrogen and Carbon. Of course we have all 4 in us but we lead from 1 or 2.

I have talked before about limiting beliefs that we have acquired in our early years. Those beliefs have come from our parents, culture, the church, significant life events, media and authority figures. If a parent was one type they may instil into us that we need to be like them, but in fact our authentic energy is to be the exact opposite. We may have grown up with the belief that it isn’t OK to be who we are. Only when we can accept that tug to be who we deeply feel we are, warts and all, can we feel peace around the person we show up as.

Enjoy being the person you know you are!

How Attached are You to Your Expectations?



“Be open to the guidance of synchronicity, and do not let expectations hinder your path.”

This understanding we have of the metaphysical is leading us down a path of balance, on one hand the striving to achieve our goals and on the other letting go of all attachment to the outcome. This is reflective of the paradox of life. Did you ever see the movie, “Under the Tuscan Sun?” The female lead is newly divorced and offered a ticket to fly to Italy where she falls in love with Tuscany – who wouldn’t! She buys a dilapidated house and tells the estate agent that she wants a family sitting around the table including young children. I won’t go on about the story suffice to say at the end the agent says to her that she has got what she wanted.

I’m sure when you heard me say she wanted a family, you imagined how she wanted that to look. But that is not what the universe delivered. She realised that she had in fact got what she wanted, but how that looked, was not how she had imagined it to be. She had followed her heart and enjoyed the experiences that came along. The outcome was guided by the synchronicities of the universe and we left the theatre knowing she was happy with what had happened.

Enjoy being guided along your path!

Start a Hugging Epidemic!



“A hug is a great gift – one size fits all, and it’s easy to exchange.”

I have just been running an acupuncture workshop and we were all strangers at the start but by the end of the weekend we had bonded and definitely wanted to say goodbye with a hug. Some people find it easier to hug than others and quite happy to take on a stranger, but a lot of us are a little more reticent and are quite selective about who we approach to make that gesture. We may feel vulnerable about expressing that connection of ‘love’ to someone we don’t know that well, however human contact is important for us to release the ‘feel good’ hormone serotonin into our system. It may be easier to accept someone else’s hug for a start so that we can feel the connection to another human being. As the quote says it can then be easy to exchange, so that the person who reached out does not feel rejected.

Human touch is so important for our development and a lot of the world are deprived of this right from the start. A hug transfers that feeling of ‘love’ from one to the other. When we don’t get that at an early age, we deduce that we are unlovable or other such beliefs that are not supportive to our young minds. We may grow up with a sense of being on our own in the world. In trying to find something or someone to love us, we may turn to drugs, alcohol, cults and joining groups that will make us feel wanted, even though the group may not be the type that most of us would want to be associated with. So even if it feels as though you’re stretching that hugging boundary, how about giving it a go for a few days and just see what happens.

Enjoy hugging – not just trees, but one another!

What Hole Are You In?



“Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.”

How many times have you seen both for yourself and others that we seem to be playing the same lesson over and over – the same experiences that we don’t want, keep popping up? We have all had times we consider to be hard, when we feel life is out to get us for some reason. We may even become a victim and feel that life isn’t fair, that we are the only one in this world that is being treated so poorly. I think we wouldn’t be human if we have not felt that at some point in our life.

Unfortunately when we’re ‘in it,’ we get caught up in the ‘story.’ In hindsight we are able to look back and see the valuable lesson we have learnt that will help us out in the future. Although it can be hard when faced with these situations, I now know that even though I may not see the lesson right now, it will become obvious at some stage. Letting go of the need to know right now will create a more open flow of awareness, and allow us to be more able to ‘see’ the lessons we have been refusing unconsciously to acknowledge.  I will leave you with a poem by Portia Nelson.

“I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost… I am helpless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in the same place.
But, it isn’t my fault.
It still takes me a long time to get out.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in. It’s a habit.
My eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault. I get out immediately.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

I walk down another street.”

Enjoy learning to walk down another street!

Have You Got Clarity Around Your Vision?



“Cherish your visions and your dreams, as they are the children of your soul; the blueprints of your ultimate achievements.”   Napoleon Hill

Napoleon Hill was writing at the beginning of the 20th century and most know him for his book, “Think and Grow Rich.” To write that book he spent years interviewing all the financial geniuses of the time, and most of what he wrote about was from his observations and the information gathering he did with those entrepreneurs of the time. He stressed the importance of getting clear on your visions and dreams because that was a common thread in his interviews of hundreds of successful men. More modern writers are now agreeing that we get these visions and dreams to achieve certain things, because they are part of our purpose on this earth, we feel it in the deepest core of our being.

We are constantly hearing that it is the ones who are following their passion, who ultimately achieve the success in their chosen field of endeavours. This does not necessarily equate to the financial success that a lot of us strive for, but can lead in that direction, if we are doing what we believe we are on this earth to do, and it really lights us up. Ask yourself, “What does my heart truly have a burning desire for? What am I inspired to create in my life? Where would I like to make a difference? Then get connected to the feeling you get when you think of your children, grand-children and pets as you follow your vision.

Enjoy connecting to your vision!