“If you don’t like something change it. If you can’t change it change your attitude. Don’t complain.’ Maya Angelou
The more we learn about our connection to the universe, the more we understand that we influence what happens to us. Everything we think, feel and speak about, sends vibrations out into the universe, which affects what shows up in our lives. Every emotion has a specific vibrational frequency, so just feeling something, has a strong chance of attracting to us what we are feeling. Of course our beliefs have a strong influence on our emotions, what we think, and the words that come out of our mouths. If we think, feel, and express ourselves in a positive way then the reticular activating system in our brains is primed to search for those experiences and we get more of the same.
If you have a more negative approach to life, then your reticular activating system goes searching for more of those experiences. Even though we may not want to be financially challenged all the time, if that’s what we are thinking about, the struggle and the lack, then that will be our experience. Our conditioned beliefs from childhood can have a bearing on whether we feel positive or negative, but at the end of the day our results are up to us. To make changes we need to change our attitude & resist complaining about our lot. Yes we may have had a very challenging childhood, or yes we may have had some nasty things happen along the way but continuing to perpetuate that with negative beliefs, thoughts and complaining, does not improve the situation. I know you could say to me, “Yes but you don’t know what it’s like,” and I probably don’t, but at the end of the day, if you want to change your future, then the only person who can do that is YOU!
Enjoy creating your future!
“I am thankful for all of those who said no to me. It’s because of them I’m doing it myself.” Albert Einstein
When my daughters were young they would ask me to draw something for them. Now when I was young I wasn’t encouraged at school, stick figures can be challenging for me. I’m not upset as I have found my creativity in other ways than drawing. So I would say to my daughters, “You show me how you draw them & they’ve all got much better abilities than I ever did because I basically said, “no, I wouldn’t do it for them.” This was history repeating itself in the dressmaking department. My mother hadn’t done a lot of sewing, so if I wanted to make something I had to do it for myself. Hence I ended up making all the children’s clothes when there were no cheap imports like there are these days, and I was able to save some dollars for the family budget.
Steve Jobs has been quoted as saying, “It’s only by saying “no,” that you can concentrate on the things that are really important.” You get to choose where you put your energy, and like Einstein you may be grateful to someone who said “no,” because it gave you time and energy to say “yes,” to something else. Maybe learning to say “no,” yourself instead of waiting for someone else to, could be a great skill to learn. Just visualise what could be possible if you were to move forward and achieve your goals and dreams. It may be all the initiative you need to get you started, even one small baby step and like a snowball the momentum could build.
Enjoy being grateful for the part of you who is making a decision!
“When you start doubting yourself, remember how far you have come. Remember everything you have faced, all the battles you have won and all the fears you have overcome.”
A good place to start is actually in the conception. Don’t know how many thousands or millions of sperm were trying to win the race to fertilise the egg but you are the result of the winner. It can be easy to wallow in self-pity and self-doubt when we have a bad day. And of course those are the days when we may only see the things that haven’t worked out, the ‘failures,’ the setbacks. I wonder how Edison felt as he continued to plough through all the pathways that didn’t lead to the light bulb. I wonder if he allowed himself the luxury of self-doubt or whether he kept remembering how far he had come, and that his belief in the light bulb would win in the end.
But of course who we are and how far we have come doesn’t just start at conception at all. We can follow the gene pool back many generations. I know that doesn’t feel quite the same connection but all our ancestors had to hang in often against huge odds to reproduce and ultimately you arrived on earth. Do you want to let them all down by giving into self-doubt, or do you want to hold your head up and be the person you came to be, recognizing the challenges you have already overcome. Being grateful for those moments of excitement when you won the battles that made you ‘of sterner stuff.’ The vibration of gratitude can be measured with a higher frequency than the doubts, which buoys us up for the next steps into unknown territory. This will give us another taste of success to carry us through the next challenges.
Enjoy building on the blocks of success!
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest achievement.”
Recognising that we are all individuals, that there is no one else in the world exactly like us, it is important that we take this responsibility to show the rest of the world this individuality, seriously. I’m sure you’ve all seen families who have the same parents but all the children appear to have different parents. Parents who perhaps who have been brought up to believe it is important to treat all the children the same, not to favour any one child. But in doing so, they are not acknowledging that they are not the same, so what works with one may very well not work with the others.
And whether you are in the classroom or in the playground there is a pressure both seen and unseen to conform, to not standout as being different. If you do try to continue to stand up for what you believe regardless of peer beliefs you could be labelled as a rebel, as eccentric, and as all sorts of unkind names that can drive young people struggling to get through their teen years, to suicide. The truth is, it can make those who are conforming, feel uncomfortable, as we often fear those who are not like us. This could be as different as another culture, another family background or just living from your own sense of place in the world. It is time for us all to respect the differences in others. Ask yourself when you next feel uncomfortable about someone who is different from you, “What is it about this person that makes me feel this discomfort?” It could be they are actually doing something you would like to be doing but have been brought up to believe it’s not appropriate in some way. This may then give you the sense of permission to go out and live your own life more fully!
Enjoy living life as you, it may be the best legacy you can leave the world!