“Everything that you are going through is preparing you for what you asked for.”
So what is it that you have asked for? It was the bible that gave you permission to ask for what you want. Are you struggling to believe that you deserve what you want or whether you are worthy? Or have you been brought up to believe that it isn’t ok to ask for what you want. My mother was brought up in a strict girl’s boarding school where they weren’t even allowed to ask for the salt or pepper, so imagine the barriers that she could have had around asking for what she wanted. It can be hard to move past these barriers especially if we don’t know they are there.
Once you are clear about what you are asking for, you then need to keep your vibration high enough to attract what you want. Those setbacks that appear to be slowing you down may be giving you some much needed information or experiences that you are going to need very soon to help you reach your dream. So often when things happen that we hadn’t asked for, we may find it difficult to see the gift while we are in the struggle. We definitely didn’t want this challenge landing in our laps right now. What if this experience is exactly what you need to move another step closer to your dream? Do you find it easy to trust that these ‘lessons’ are for your own good?
Enjoy learning the lesson!
“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” Ralph Waldo Emerson.
For those of you have been brought up with a religious background this quote may not sit well with you. That belief system may have you understanding that only the ‘God’ of your understanding decides that. However more and more research is being done on the energetics of this statement. What we are now learning is that if we can hold our intention, our goal, our dream as the reality it is going to be, it has to line up and happen. The stronger we can hold that belief in our body and the more emotionally engaged we are with it, the more likely it will happen.
The problem as I’ve stated before, is letting the probability of the idea get caught up in doubts, fears and negativity. If it doesn’t happen when we think it should, we lose the strength of our conviction and energetically push our dream further out of our reach. Most of us have some sort of limiting belief that steps up when we make the decision to let go of the familiar patterns that get in the way of us achieving what we what. We will feel uncomfortable when we move through those old patterns. When will you feel deserving of being that person you have decided is more of you and step through to BE THAT PERSON!
Enjoy feeling uncomfortable as you reach to be that person!
“There is a saying, that decision & discipline weigh ounces; regret weighs tons. Whatever decision you can make that seems right to you today – use just a little bit of discipline to bring it about.”
I remember when my husband and I owned motels, if we didn’t sell all our units each night we could never sell those unit nights again. It is not like a book sitting on the shelf which can be sold tomorrow if not sold today. I think life is a bit like that. We only get so many minutes in life, some more than others. When we decide to say yes to some things it means we are saying no to others. Every minute of the day we have to prioritize what is important to us and what is not. Research has been done interviewing people in their later years as to the regrets they have. It is not usually things like being at work more. It is things like spending more time with their children or loved ones.
Of course the decision is a part of the equation but following through on that decision with discipline is the other part. We need to look at the end of the day to see what is it that stopped us from bringing discipline to bear to the decisions we have made. Sometimes if I’m tired I find it easier to be attracted to activities that don’t take a lot of concentration, like doing a Sudoku. So maybe one of my decisions could be to get to bed at a better time so that tomorrow my discipline is stronger. You’ve probably heard a million times, that it is your WHY that will keep you focused and disciplined. Making sure you know why it is important that you follow through on your decisions, will help you when the challenges come along.
Enjoy the pride that comes with discipline!
“Remember you have been criticising yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”
I don’t know about you men but we women are pretty good at doing the self-criticism thing for a lot of our lives. I talked a couple of weeks ago about a saying that hypnotherapist Marisa Peer keeps repeating, about making what is familiar, (criticising yourself) unfamiliar, and making what is unfamiliar, (talking positively to yourself) familiar. I was just listening to one of her audio tacks the other day and she likens how we didn’t know how to drive a car or use a computer at one stage of our lives, but we’ve made that familiar because we want to get about & keep up with the technology of the world.
As young children we all learn behaviours that we are definitely familiar with but which are not serving us or empowering us now that we are adults. Things that we did as a child to keep safe and hopefully produce love are habitual and they feel like habits that could be too hard to break. This depends of course on how addicted we are to criticising ourselves. We get to choose to understand that just because something was familiar when we were children, is not a good enough reason to keep it going. It is no longer appropriate or necessary or relevant. It isn’t even remotely interesting for me to keep things familiar just because they were familiar then. From all the research about praise and how our whole physiology changes when we are praised or when we praise someone else, you can appreciate the changes you can make to yourself quickly if instead of criticising yourself you can come up with some praise on a regular basis
Enjoy approving of yourself daily.
“The thing always happens that you really believe in; and a belief in the thing makes it happen.” Frank Lloyd Wright
So what are beliefs? They are things we hold to be true. What are the things that you hold to be true? Think of the times you have had very different beliefs to someone you know. They have been told things over their time on this earth and at some point in time they hold those statements to be true while at the same time you hold diametrically opposite statements to be the truth. So who is right? Because our beliefs create our reality we both understandably consider them to be the truth. We are looking at our reality through a different lense.
I’m sure you’ve all heard before, probably on one of these newsletters, that our beliefs, thoughts and emotions create a wave of energy. A part of our brain goes searching for that reality to prove that it is indeed a truth. When we find it we can say to ourselves, “See I knew that to be true.” At the same time our next door neighbour has a different belief & attracts a completely different reality. What is it you want to create that is not already happening in your life? Take note and change the self-talk and thoughts that are your predominant pattern. Perhaps you’re not noticing. If that’s the case, it is time to be observant of what you think about everything that is going on In your life. Hold on to the thoughts that are going to create the life you want and take action to move towards the things that are searching for you so you can connect.
Enjoy holding on to those empowering creative thoughts and beliefs!