“Do you know what happens when you give a procrastinator a good idea? Nothing!” – Donald Gardner
I think we’re all guilty from time to time of this one. Napoleon Hill says in his book, “Think and Grow Rich,” that it is a form of being indecisive – sitting on the fence.
Lisa Jimenez wrote a book called “Conquer Fear.” In that she talks about the four inherent needs of human beings in general. One is the need for excitement – some of us need more than others. She says that procrastination could be seen as a way to get excitement, because of the adrenaline rush we get when we are racing to get something finished before the deadline. Yes I’m guilty of that!
Procrastination can also be because of a need to be perfect, who of you out there knows this one. We have a fear of our work being judged. Of course life being what it is, we will probably get judged by someone anyway, so why not get started and give yourself the chance to spend enough time on the preparation to turn out your work to the best of your abilities at that point in time.
Think about some of the opportunities we are missing, because we don’t make the decision to act now, on the ideas that are coming through daily. So what, if it’s the wrong decision – it may be a huge learning opportunity for us. Our whole lives are about learning something whether through active choice, through mistakes or not moving i.e. procrastinating. Procrastination could be seen as a decision to not move and that will have consequences just like the consequences of going ahead and doing something that turns out to be the wrong move. The universe will keep putting these lessons in front of us one way or another so why not learn the lesson NOW!
Enjoy moving on those decisions!
“The first to apologise is the bravest. The first to forgive is the strongest and the first to forget is the happiest.”
I have just been doing some work over the weekend on a technique called ‘Conversational Intelligence.’ The main thrust of this technique is to use it in businesses but of course it has a big impact on any conversations in any relationship. If we are in a conversation with anyone and we feel threatened in any way, our brain reacts as though in fear and the stress response follows. The hormones released cause the part of the brain that is responsible for making great decisions and thinking through problems, to get shut down. Conversational Intelligence is about saying things to staff, co-workers, friends or family, in a way that is not going to stress them. Sometimes this feels like we are being brave as we open up a conversation that may elicit a negative reaction.
To then forgive, is remembering that it is not about turning the other cheek so we can get hurt again, but more about us moving on and letting go of the hurt that is now in the past. We can’t change what has been done. Staying in the hurt is supporting the victim part of ourselves and that does not usually feel strong or empowering to be in that place. So forgive for your own sake, to feel strong and move forward. If you can then forget that past event, live in the present and move towards the future with optimism you will be happier.
Enjoy forgetting the wrongs that have been done!
“Be mindful of your self-talk. It’s a conversation with the Universe.” David James Lees
We live in an energetic world. Everything is energy including the chair you are sitting on and your body, your mind, your thoughts, your self-talk. The Quantum Physicists turned our physical world upside down when they discovered what we now know about the energetic laws of the world. Every time we have a thought and the emotion that follows, we are creating a wave of energy that is going out into the Universe. I have seen an experiment where they showed how different wavelengths can affect iron filings differently. So at X frequency the same pattern would show up each time, and the higher the frequency, the more intricate and beautiful the pattern.
Our thoughts and self-talk are no different. If the frequency we are putting out is slow and heavy, they will attract slow, heavy people and experiences into our lives. On the other hand, if we are being confident and powerful, that is the sort of experiences we will attract. We all have the choice every minute of every day, with what frequency we want to put out. If we have learnt to tune in regularly throughout the day to our bodies wisdom, we will find out how we are feeling, not what we are thinking. Like a GPS this will guide us to stay on the same frequency or to pick up the rate to attract more desirable experiences into our lives.
Enjoy vibrating at your optimum level.
“The winner is the one who is willing to get out on the field and play the game.” Vince Lombardi
A lot of my life I have felt as though I have the brakes on. I have had a sense that I could do more but progress has been slow. I have made progress though because I am in the game taking steps each day albeit baby steps. I was doing some work today and had a sudden realisation that if I can do as much as I have with the breaks on, how much more progress could I be making if I let the brakes off. We all do it from time to time, maybe all the time, but at least most of us are out there in life doing all we know how to find the next step to take, to find the path we should be on.
Are you aware of what it is that is slowing your progress or in fact bringing you to a complete halt in the area you have chosen to follow your dreams? Are you listening to the inner critic that is telling you, you aren’t good enough, that you’re not going to make it, or whatever version you have spinning around and around in the CD of your mind? Don’t listen to that old stuff. Bring a new version into play that is more empowering. Winning is not about a competitive race to the finish line of life. Winning is about taking power over those voices in the head, telling them that things have changed, you no longer believe what someone said to you in an off moment back when you were 3. It’s time to listen to the new positive CD message and step into life with a whole new outlook.
Enjoy kicking those critical messages to touch!
“You must learn a new way to think before you can master a new way to be.”
Our goals don’t have to be as lofty as to want to be the next Mother Theresa, but whatever they are, to get there we have to master those thoughts that are whizzing around inside us. What if they’re positive and empowering? Great, as long as they are the predominant thoughts! Having control to move past the repetitive doubts and judgements is paramount if we want to attract the life we want. And to attract the life we want we have to become the person it takes to attract that, be the person who has positive thoughts predominantly, be the person who shows enthusiasm for life and expects things to work out.
This doesn’t mean challenges don’t come up. It means that when they do, we look at them from a new perspective, to find solutions that are going to work in the medium to long term. So rather than dwelling on the problem as it is today, look forward to the goals, outcomes or dreams we want & find a solution that is going to get us back on track as quickly as possible. In doing so, we grow in the process. We become the person who can handle the setbacks, who knows who they are and how they can make the choices not governed by the conditioned thoughts we have grown up with. Now is the time to be aware of how your mind is in charge and how you can help it grow up as well, so it doesn’t stay as a 3 year old for ever like Peter Pan. It’s time to take charge and feed your mind, new more empowering beliefs, to help it think new thoughts, so that it joins you in mastering the new way of being!
Enjoy mastering the new thought processes!