“Every strike brings me closer to the next home run.” Babe Ruth
Babe was well known for the number of home runs he had. What is it that you want that you would call a home run? What are you doing to get there? Often the hardest things, is to get started. The self-talk can always find reasons why we won’t get a home run, so we put off taking that first step, we procrastinate. The fact is, “if you do not GO after what you want, you’ll never have it, if you do not step forward, you will always be in the same place.” Even salespeople use this knowledge of statistics. They must keep asking and be prepared for the ‘No,’ to get the ‘Yes.’ As I read on facebook yesterday, “if you do not ask, the answer will always be NO.
So what is it that you are not going after or stepping forward into? Even if you can take a baby step towards what you want, and then another and another. Slowly but surely you will start to build momentum and like the snow ball rolling down the hill as you gain momentum you will pick up more of what you want along the way. Having the courage to risk a fall, a setback, will give you confidence to continue to take the chance as you overcome the obstacles or challenges that will inevitably pop up. Let me know what your experiences have been as you take steps into the unknown.
Enjoy taking even baby steps!
“Be loyal to those who are not present. In doing so, you build the trust of those who are present.” Steven Covey
On the inverse of this can you remember times when you have heard people talk badly about their friends and then you’ve wondered, what are they saying about me behind my back? The trust factor, that is so important for all relationships, starts to slip. I have quoted before from the book, Conversational Intelligence. In there, the author Judith Glaser, explains that we have to have trust, to co-create a great relationship with others. Trust can be built up or down in .07 sec of meeting someone. If distrust is stronger we are activating the part of our brain that is related to stress and we produce the hormones adrenaline and cortisol as a result. These chemicals shut down the part of the brain that is the executive brain. The part that makes decisions, is able to share, be open, transparent and inquisitive.
In that .07 sec we are getting messages from the tone of the voice; if we are being made to feel bad or minimised; if we feel we are taking risks and scared that we will be rejected; if we feel excluded or that someone is angry at us; or minimising our power, the stress centre or amygdala pumps out the stress hormones and shuts down the part of the brain that is trying to make decisions. So if you hear someone talk ill of others, your distrust centre, the amygdala, lights up and shuts you down from contributing in an open way. Conversely, if you hear someone speaking up on behalf of a person who is not present, you will relax into the conversation and feel safe.You will put out hormones that create bonding and a feel good factor with that person. In other words you will trust that person.
Enjoy being the person that others can trust.
“Instead of being afraid to start a new chapter in your life, be as excited as you are when reading a really good book and want to know what happens next.”
Here we are half way through 2017. How do you feel the written material on the pages of the left side of your book of life, are looking? Are you excited about the empty pages on the right side of the book? In the last two weeks I have talked about procrastination and sticking your neck out to achieve the results you want in life. I talked about the limiting beliefs that may be holding you back. If they are, you may very well not feel that excited about your future. You may be finding it hard to conjure up any enthusiasm or believe that you can write anything different on the blank pages.
What if you were to ask yourself a question that started with “What if,” expecting a great positive result? The universe is going to match that enthusiastic question with an enthusiastic response. If you can keep that energy high, positive, enthusiastic or excited you will start attracting things into your life that have that sort of energy. We attract what we think about and have an emotional attachment to. I can hear some of you saying, “but I’ve tried that and it doesn’t work.” We have to stay in that energy of belief and enthusiasm for our future for as much time as we can. Thinking about it for 5 minutes in the morning and then resorting to the doubts and fears will just undermine your best intentions.
Enjoy being excited about that new chapter you are about to start!
“Behold the turtle: he only makes progress when he sticks his neck out.” James Bryant Conant, educator and diplomat 1893 – 1978
Last week I talked about procrastination. Do you think you have put off doing something because it could mean you will be sticking your head above the parapet if you do it? When we stop procrastinating we may have to stick our necks out. How does that feel, does it bring up limiting beliefs, beliefs that have held you back from doing what you really wanted to do, for most of your life? Is it time to step out beyond those beliefs and fears, and make a stand for that life you know at your core is what you want. Is it time to recognise that the procrastination is a smoke shield for the fear that you may not have what it takes?
I’m sure you have heard of the Law of Attraction. We all have the ability to make changes to our lives to be in line with our vision. We do have to believe that we can do it. If we’re going to stick our necks out we need to have a big WHY! If we’re putting the message out to the universe that we know we can achieve our dream, and we know why it so important to fulfil that dream, we are more likely to stick our necks out regardless and achieve what we believe is possible. Doing the same things over and over and expecting a different result, has been termed insanity. When are you going to stick your neck out and go after your dream?
Enjoy sticking your neck out!