“Your vision becomes clear when you look inside your heart. Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens.” Carl Jung1875 – 1961 Psychiatrist
I chose this quote because I have been asked what was different about the style of coaching I do and this quote explains it. We have been trained to come from our heads. Our minds race around all day trying to find the answers to our problems. We look out at our circumstances, we look out to other people’s views and suggestions and we look back to past results to come up with our solutions. The limbic part of the brain stores all our memories and when something comes up that looks like a past experience it alerts the oldest part of the brain that sets off the stress response and suddenly we find we can’t reason properly any more, we don’t relate as well to other people and we’re not as trusting
IN-sight is found IN-side! According to the Institute of Heart Maths, there are more messages going from the heart to the brain than the other way. The heart helps the brain feel what we want to do and can create a coherent pattern that gets in sync with the brain and helps it to settle down. If you have a problem or a question, you can connect with your heart and ask your higher self for an answer. Of course we have to listen for the answer which may not come immediately. It may come in a passing comment of a friend in general conversation, it may come from a coach – like putting a question into the google search box, the specificity of your question will narrow the search for the answer you are looking for.
Enjoy being guided by your heart!
“Those who cannot change their minds, cannot change anything.”
Our minds have a powerful role to play – come up with the things we want, connect with that the desire and emotion we feel and the belief that we can achieve our dream. It doesn’t matter what it is if the mind is engaged and really believes it can happen it will. Unfortunately our minds have been conditioned, read brainwashed, since day dot by everyone around us. A lot of this conditioning is really helpful and necessary but all those significant people in our lives have been brought up with beliefs that have been conditioned into their minds. If we are not aware that these beliefs are not truths we continue blindly on not trying to change anything. And this is not necessarily our fault.
But once we know this stuff we and only we are the ones responsible to make the changes we know in our deepest being need to be made. If we don’t we will continue to do, be and have exactly the same experiences and results year after year. Sometimes this isn’t as easy as it sounds because we may not actually see the full story, the messages we have received may be very hurtful and damaging and for some would deserve the title ‘Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.’ But if you’re one who really wants to change don’t be a victim by letting go of the dreams because you can’t be bothered doing the work. It all starts with how you are feeling about yourself and life and if you’re not happy, what are you going to direct yourself to do about it? The mind needs to know how committed you are and it will get in behind you.
Enjoy the feeling you get when you make the decision to make the changes you want!
“Successful people pay more attention to their visions & goals than to history & the opinion of others.” Alan Cohen
History is useful because it has brought us to where we are today. It has given us all our experiences in life & has made us who we are. It can be helpful to use as a guide as to whether we should be continuing to do what we are currently doing or whether we should make some changes. What is not helpful is using that history as an excuse for reasons why we aren’t achieving what we would desire. We’ve all probably heard the statement, “that it is madness to continue doing what we’ve always done expecting a different result.” Every moment is the beginning of the rest of our lives & whatever we are doing or thinking now influences the results we get in the future!
Another quote I like that I’ve heard from the great motivator, Les Brown – “Don’t let someone else’s judgement become your reality!” We all have access to our own inner guidance system which has more truth than the comments well-meaning friends & family make. Start listening to that ‘gut feeling’ as a guidance system for the direction you should be taking in life. Yes it may be scary when we are being asked to step up into something new, especially if we use our history as a guide as to our potential. If we focus on our visions & goals, as Alan Cohen suggests the successful people do, we may surprise even ourselves with the opportunities that open up, to help us reach a potential we hadn’t realized was in us!
Enjoy focusing on your visions & goals!
“Forgiveness is not always easy. At times, it feels more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one that inflicted it. And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness.” Marianne Williamson
Will you forgive me? I forgot to send you a weekly thought last Monday. Things like this are usually easy to forgive, but it’s the wounds that go deep, that may have been there for years in some cases, that we have trouble forgiving. We may have already had filters in place that caused the situation in the first place, but if not they are more than likely creating the view point now. The pain may initially have been too strong to even consider forgiving the person you feel has wronged you but the sooner you can start the process of changing how you feel about the situation, the sooner you can start to let go of the blockages to your own physiology.
This process is not about the other person! This is about allowing yourself to heal. Why should we let them off the hook? Because, while we hang on to the feelings of ‘having been done wrong,’ this creates a blockage to a good healthy physiology. Yes I know, you feel healthy now but who knows what is going on under the surface if left unchecked. If you can’t do this, I suggest you look at what you have got to gain from hanging on to the feelings and the pain that you feel, when you think about that person or the incident that took place. What are the thoughts or the words that you are talking in your head? One really good technique that helps is to do ‘Emotional Freedom Technique’ or EFT for short. Also known as Meridian Tapping. Yes it’s that crazy technique where you tap on your face & upper body. If you on to Youtube you will find a ton of people who have video clips about all sorts of things.
Enjoy tapping as you vent your feelings about this other person and in doing so calm your system down. Sounds contradictory but it works so give it a go!