“The first step to getting anywhere is deciding you’re not willing to stay where you are”
The word decision is a huge one. Whether we know it or not we are making decisions every minute of the day. We are choosing whether to stay lying in bed for another 15 minutes after the alarm, or whether we get up. So sometimes decisions don’t seem that big, but if we continually make these sorts of decisions, mostly by default, we get results that may be mediocre at best. Just think if you got up 15 minutes earlier every morning of your life, how many hours extra you would be adding, so that you can achieve something you have been trying to find time for. You may not be enjoying where your life is at, in this present moment, but until the pain of staying there is worse than the fear to move forward, you won’t be motivated to go anywhere else.
Sometimes we can just make that decision on our own because it isn’t going to impact others on a daily basis. It might impact them for the better long term and that might be the reason we have chosen to get off our butts and make some changes. However there may be bigger changes like changing careers or taking a rise that might impact other family members because you’ll be away from home more or your hours of work may be longer. We may have to consult someone else with knowledge we don’t have as to whether our next decision is wise in light of some new information. But if you want to move because you are unhappy where you are, it is ultimately up to you to make the decision to the best of your ability in light of all the facts. And as John Assaraf says, “Don’t just be interested, be committed.”
Enjoy making conscious decisions!
“My circumstances do not make me what I am, they reveal who I have chosen to be.” Wayne Dyer
Did you realise that you can choose to be someone different than you are today. And no you don’t have to be inauthentic. We are changing all the time to talk and interact with different people in a different way. We are doing that by default and we may sometimes behave in a way that we are not proud of because we have been triggered another person or circumstance. We all see life through a set of filters that have built up over the years through all our different experiences. Things that happen look like a past experience that wasn’t happy or didn’t have a good outcome and our subconscious responds to protect us so we don’t feel the pain of that situation again.
But we can learn to respond differently, we can choose to behave in a way that we feel better as a result. We all know people and circumstances that cause us to feel an emotion that we don’t like or we allow it to disempower us. We may respond in a heated way, we may shrink into ourselves as a victim might, but if we recognise that the situation is upsetting us or triggering us to remember old situations and the response we had back then, we can choose to do it differently this time. We all know the family members or old friends who know us so well, that they are able to push our buttons by reminding us of things that have happened in the past, things that we would rather forget. Unfortunately we never really forget them, they get stored in a part of the brain that stores all experiences we have ever had. If we can learn to listen or feel into what the body is trying to tell us, we can learn to do it differently. Tell the subconscious that it is quite safe to make the changes, and then our behaviour will reflect that to reveal who we have chosen to become.
Enjoy learning a more empowering way to respond to life!
“Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person you become.” Jim Rohn
And maybe we should be thinking about what success means to each and every one of us. It can depend on our age, how we were brought up, cultural expectations and our own inner drive of what we want to do with our lives – in other words our purpose. Sometimes it can be that we are successful at certain things and get recognition for it, but in our ‘heart of hearts,’ that really doesn’t match our inner sense of what success is, so we don’t feel successful. What we have just achieved is a hollow result. Along the way of course we have had failures and it can be hard not to focus on that and judge ourselves because of it. But those failures might become your biggest successes. In this context, because Jim Rohn was a motivational personal development speaker, I will keep my thoughts to this arena.
I have CDs and even audio tapes of Jim Rohn talking about his ideas, and this idea that you have to grow yourself into a position can sound a bit idealistic in the context in which he worked. But if you were to think about your passage through the schooling system, you could not have coped with the work presented to you in your final year if you hadn’t gone through the preceding years to give you the foundation for the new material. When you take on a new job, you have to learn, not only about the work itself but also the culture of the organisation and make your way up the pecking order and the experience that gives you, before you can become the CEO. What Jim Rohn is talking about here, is no different. If we don’t have a good awareness of who we need to be to handle the success, then we’re not ready to take it on. Have we got a big enough belief in ourselves? Are we comfortable with criticism or constructive advice from those around us? Do we think we deserve to be successful? If not then we may procrastinate, we may do things that block our success. Are you aware of what your success goals are and who you need to be to achieve them?
Enjoy celebrating success!
“When people are determined they can overcome anything.” Nelson Mandala
And he should know, one would think. He certainly overcame a lot of political resistance in South Africa to become the first black President. He spent 27 years in prison for his beliefs around non-apartheid and political offences. That shows pretty strong determination to ‘stick to his guns.’ Are you aware of times when your own determination has got you what you wanted, maybe not straight away but definitely worked at some point? There is a Universal Law called the ‘Law of Gender,’ which states that everything that comes into existence has a timeline. For example we all know roughly how long a baby seed takes to grow in the womb until birth. We know how long a carrot seed takes but we don’t always know how long our ideas, seeds, take to come to fruition. We can get impatient and stop having faith in our idea to work out.
I have talked regularly about having gratitude for things and people in our lives on a daily basis. Have I also impressed on you that having gratitude for something that hasn’t materialized yet is showing faith that we know it will, it is just a matter of time. Does that sound like something you are familiar with? Do you think that if you stayed determined in your belief, that what you wanted was going to happen, it would manifest when the time is right? The fact that it hasn’t manifested yet does not mean it isn’t going to, but yes you do have to play your part, be determined, have faith and believe that you can overcome any obstacles.
Enjoy overcoming anything with determination!
“You cannot always control what goes on outside. But you can always control what goes on inside.” Wayne Dyer
Right from the first time I heard about personal development, whoever was speaking would say the same thing in a different way. What it all boiled down to was, our thoughts create our feelings which then create our actions and our results. If we then let those results affect what we are thinking then we just perpetuate that cycle of the same thoughts over and over. Most of us have been brought up to believe that we can’t make changes, but the new information that is coming out all the time, is telling us that our brains are plastic – able to be moulded, moulded to whatever idea we want, that connects strongly with our feelings and creates a high vibration. Wayne Dyer has repeated this message from all sorts of people who have written books or other texts that have influenced him to put his stamp on this belief about how the universe operates in all of us with that concept.
I recently pulled out an old set of CDs of his where he was doing a stage show with Byron Katie who has her process called, ‘The Work.’ If you are interested in seeing her operate with people, asking them the 4 questions and then the ‘turn around,’ put her name into the ‘you tube’ search bar. This process she does, helps people make huge transformations in their lives. But none of it has anything to do with the outside, it is all about what is going on inside of us. There may well be things going on outside of us that we don’t like, but we can change how we see them and their effect on us. We can change our thoughts about them and notice how we are affected when we believe our thoughts and how we are affected when we can reframe, refocus and redirect those thoughts. We can stop feeling like a victim and move on to a more fulfilling life.
Enjoy controlling what’s going on in the inside.