Monthly Archives: August 2019

What Are You Attached to Negatively?



“I release all things from the past year that has caused any negative attachment. I prepare and welcome new changes, new lessons and new adventures. I welcome new opportunities to grow emotionally, mentally and spiritually.” Author unknown.

When I saw this, I thought this really represented what I’m about. Helping my clients to stop focusing on the negative past, even though it has helped create the person we are today. We get what we focus on, so focusing on the negatives of our past will create more of the same. The word attachment is important. I have been doing work on myself because I need to be comfortable about  my negative past, if I am going to help my clients reach their potential. So there may have been some negatives that you have come to terms with and they no longer ‘trigger’ you. This shows that you no longer have an attachment to that person or incident. However, if you can still get upset, if you continue to bring the incident up to tell to whoever will listen, then you still have an attachment. Learning how to let that go is important for you to be able to take the next step and “prepare for the new changes, lessons and adventures.”

Gratitude is something I go on about. We can feel grateful for all that is in our lives but at the same time be growing into new circumstances. It doesn’t mean that we are ungrateful, it means that we are part of life that is forever growing into an expanded version of ourselves. A self that will probably have more to offer to those around us, as we behave in a way that shows we are comfortable in our own skin. A self that is driving us forward to be or do things that may seem a bit scary, or outside our comfort zone in this moment. And when those negative lumps of concrete are no longer holding us back, we can be free to move forward in the way that we desire. We can say with freedom and conviction, “I welcome new opportunities to grow emotionally, mentally and spiritually.”

Enjoy growing into the new changes, lessons and adventures.

What Future Have You Planned for Yourself?



The future is something, which everyone reaches at the rate of sixty minutes an hour, whatever he does, whoever he is.” – C.S. Lewis

We have a choice in whatever we do in life.  We can choose to have a life by default or we can choose to design a life that we want to live.  If we live another year we will all get 365 days to give our life for. Why not do something that empowers you with energy as you follow your passion and live those days by design!  Who knows what the future will feel like as you fuel your body with positive energy. Of course we can talk about the future but in reality we never experience it as the future – only as the now, in every second of the day.

And who knows how many more minutes we have left in our lives. I have a friend who had a hip replacement and there were a list of things she was told she couldn’t do again. Initially she became a bit depressed to think about changing her whole lifestyle, but once her hip was healed she decided to defy the surgeon. As she said, “why not enjoy it now? I could go under a bus tomorrow.” That hip has stood the test of time & when she needed the other hip done several years later, they had changed the instructions & she was told she could do what she wanted on it. As I said at the start we all have that choice to fill up those sixty minutes each hour with positive choices, or not. And for those of you reading this with physical conditions that do restrict what you can do physically, I would like to think you have made choices to fill up the sixty minutes like the rest of us with things that you can & you want to do.

Enjoy your life of design!

What Thought Did You Just Have That Tripped You Up?



“Don’t look where you fall, but where you slipped.”  African proverb

In the past I have talked about the influence our thoughts can have on the outcome of our lives.  So often we look at the results we get and think that we need to look at the action that caused those results.  This is because this is all we see.  It’s that cause and effect scientific relationship we are looking at. However we need to go back to the thought level, to the unseen, to make the necessary changes to influence our results.  We can look at it like a chain reaction.  Our thoughts cause us to feel a certain way – negative thoughts are constricting or disempowering, positive thoughts are expansive or empowering. In the new understanding of the energetic world we vibrate differently when we are constricted and negative than we do when we are expansive and positive.

That vibration or those feelings then cause us to act in a certain way.  The low energy thoughts and feelings cause us to move more slowly and attach an outcome of more negativity.  Whereas those high energy thoughts and feelings cause us to feel like we can take on the world.  Those actions are what we see and therefore believe are responsible for the results in our lives.  Where you ‘slipped’ is probably at the level of thought, which created a different feeling, emotion or vibration, and not in the action itself. Unfortunately we can perpetuate this cycle to continue into a spiral in a downward direction if we are not happy with the results and don’t really know how to break it. Starting to be aware of the feelings and emotions that are coming up, may give you a clue as to what you are thinking, and if you don’t like what you are feeling and thinking then you know what you have to change.

Enjoy choosing a thought that prevents you from ‘falling.’

Are You Wasting Precious Energy Worrying?



“Don’t worry about failures, worry about the chances you miss when you don’t even try.”  Jack Canfield

We are being told over and over that there is no such thing as failure. When we feel like we haven’t achieved what we want, it should be considered as feedback, as a way something shouldn’t be done, as a way to put down as experience as we find a way that it can work. Most of the things we take for granted in life, someone has had to go through several attempts to get the finished product. So putting that worry energy into, ‘how else can I do it’ energy is going to be more productive in the long term. Worry itself, whatever it is about, can be a waste of energy as it’s usually about the future, so you could be spoiling today ruminating over something that might not even happen tomorrow.

I think this is where the terminology of pessimist or optimist comes in. If we are a ‘glass half empty’ person, we are more likely to be thinking about what could go wrong, than the optimist who could be excitedly looking at the future where most things are going to plan. It’s not that they have rose tinted glasses and believe that nothing is going to go wrong, it’s more that they know they can handle the setbacks and that they will get there if they stick at it long enough. I’m not sure that I want to worry about the chances I’ll miss when I don’t even try. It’s energy that I would prefer to put into looking out for the opportunities to try. In fact I think sometimes I do too much of that, balancing too many spinning tops. Instead of thinking “What if,” in a negative sense, start thinking “What if,” in a positive sense. You will find your energy lifting and when it does, you will attract more things into your life that have a higher energy as well.

Enjoy changing your level of energy vibration!