Monthly Archives: October 2020

What Are You Learning About Yourself From Life’s Experiences?



“The highest reward for a man’s toil is not what he gets for it, but what he becomes by it.”

I have just been to Auckland for the weekend to teach cosmetic acupuncture. So with a 2 hour flight each way I decided I was going to read one of the books in my electronic collection. I selected one called “The Surrender Experiment,” by Michael Singer. This is a fascinating read for anyone who is open to the concept of getting out of your own way & letting the universe deliver the experiences you need. He started off believing that all he wanted to do was meditate his way to enlightenment, and he only did enough work to keep a vegetarian hippie alive in his van living in the middle of nowhere. But life had other ideas and he started to realise that there was no point in fighting what was coming his way, even though his inner talk would have a field day if he let it. Stepping out of the resistance, allowed him to see how much better the outcomes were and that the right people turned up to help him whenever he needed it, as he was asked to do all sorts of things he would never have done, left to his own devices.

He learnt that his life was to be in ‘service.’ A lot of us may shun this word and not want to go near the idea of service because of the old concept of servants having to do someone else’s bidding. What he found was, the more he quietened down the resistant voice & allowed things to happen, the more his life got more and more exciting. He had to learn things along the way that he would never have done had he stayed resolutely meditating his way through the day. Now I know that most of you don’t do that! But most of us do get caught up in the petty life dramas that turn up. Sometimes we will look back and see the lesson, but often we don’t consider what it is that we could be learning in the midst of it, and we don’t ask for the help we need to come out the other side having learnt things about ourselves, so that we’re continuing to grow whatever our age. This is definitely one of my lessons that I need to keep working on.

Enjoy learning to surrender to your experiences and learn from them!

Honesty – “To Be or Not To Be” That is the Question!



“Honesty doesn’t have to be brutal, but it has to be honest.”  Simon Sinek

I remember when I was doing my coaching training. We had to do an exercise where we told each of the others in the class something that we didn’t like about them. Now sometimes we think we would give our eye teeth, as the saying goes, to tell someone what we thought of them. However in an exercise like this it can be quite difficult, much easier on the whole to say something pleasant or positive. One of the young guys in my group said he didn’t like how I was always honest. Now that came as a bit of a shock to me as I had always prided myself on my honesty.

In my manual of that course there was a section on communication styles. Lo & behold there was a name for the type of honesty I was portraying, Truth Mongering! As I read the description I realised this was definitely one of my styles. Always feeling I had to tell the truth and call a spade a spade. As I said earlier I prided myself on my honesty. And yes I can still feel the need to let nothing go unchallenged, I’m direct, forthright and can be argumentative to make sure the facts are clear. So this quote is definitely for me this week, to remind me how being brutally honest can upset people.

I talked last week about the epigenetics training I am doing – in fact I gave up some lovely weather to sit at my computer and learn more. Once we know the ‘Healthtype’ of person we are, and we are able to recognise other people by their shape and traits, we can learn to moderate our style to connect better with the person we are communicating with in this moment. An amazing skill to learn, because so much of life is about relationships and communication.

Do you think you have any of the traits I have mentioned? Take a moment and think about how you communicate and whether there is a need to make a tweak so that your message is understood and received. It is important to master your ability to communicate or connect with other human beings.

Enjoy communicating with honesty but without brutality!

Health For Life Matters



I was brought up in a household ahead of its time, if I consider the food we were allowed or not allowed to eat. I know some of the sugar stuff was driven by a father who was a dentist – not that he did the whipping into line. We weren’t allowed to eat jam or drink cordial were the 2 main things I remember. So I had a fairly healthy childhood, with just the usual colds & coughs that kids get.

When my children were little I tried to follow my mother’s example, but they seemed to have more than their fair share of bugs going around, so I made an appointment to see a naturopath and that’s where my journey into being more aware of how we can choose to be healthy or not, really started. I sprinkled kelp on their savoury food instead of salt. I blended good oils with butter to avoid using margarine. We had lots of fresh salads rather than the stewed vegetables, my husband had been brought up on. But none of that prevented him from him going down with the big ‘C’ word.

As we were going through his journey of surgeries & treatments, we were introduced to the idea of eating according to your blood type & then another book came out Living According to you blood type. Luckily we were both the same blood group, so it meant only 1 lot of food to be prepared. It was interesting to learn that because we are in the ‘O’ group this meant being aware that we need our protein and don’t handle being a vegetarian that well. We also need cardiovascular exercise whereas those in the other major group…’A’ are happy to do yoga, and we respond to stress differently.

So 5 months ago when I was introduce to the concept of an epigenetic lifestyle, my ears pricked up. This has taken the differences in our human life to a whole new level. What is Epigenetics I hear you ask? You know that we are all born with genes that control the colour of our eyes and hair, but there are some that are can be influenced by our environment and our lifestyle, and they get switched on & off. We want to encourage the ‘good’ ones to stay switched on and keep the ‘bad’ ones off. As research has shown us more and more about how to do that, this science of controlling how our genes are behaving by choosing to eat well, have our exercise and good amounts of sleep, has become a very personalized way of looking after our health.

They have been able to show that there are 6 different types who respond to the world in predictable ways because of their epigenetic type. Each type has a different time scale of when they are best to sleep, eat, work, exercise and socialise. When you talk to people who know what group they are in, it is fascinating how that has changed everything for them….. how their lives flow better when they can do everything at an optimal time for them. I jumped into the opportunity to do an introductory course about this. I loved it so much, I’m about to spend the next 7 months digging deeper so that I can learn how to support others keen to follow their epigenetic type, to a life of flow.

Of course my life coaching sits alongside this well, especially as my style is all about authentically supporting my clients as they journey through the changes they want to make. My decision to spread my attention to health in a way that feels so right, is just another step along the path that started as an awareness as a child. Does this topic interest you at all? Contact me if you want to find out more.

Enjoy growing as you move through life!