“Worrying is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere.” Author unknown
Like my father I was born a worrier. My conscious mind knows it does me no good to use up my precious energy on worrying about things that may never happen – see the cartoon. Why live in a stressful future before we have to! Worry also pumps up the stress hormones and we make up more stories built on thoughts beliefs and memories. At the moment worry is a predominant baseline emotion for a lot of people!
However I have been conditioned since a young girl. We may have got the message that we look important if we have a lot of problems. Or that we like the drama & don’t have enough without worrying. Being addicted to adrenaline could be seen as a way to fulfill the human need of excitement – not a very healthy way to get it, but drama could fuel that need. Or we simply may have no idea, it’s just the lessons we were given that worrying is the behaviour of choice.
So I’m constantly using all the tools I have learnt over the years such as replacing the worry thoughts that are disempowering with more empowering ones; use the what if phrase in a more positive sense thinking about the things that could go right; do some mindful deep breathing which brings us back from the future to the present; and do this crazy thing called meridian tapping that you may have heard about. Whatever it is that works for you, I suggest you get yourself off the worry rocking chair & do something that keeps you in the present.
Enjoy deactivating the worry button!