Are You Choosing to Live Your Life by Design or by Default?



“Awareness gives you choice. Choice gives you freedom.”   John Assaraf

Often when I am working with a client or at a workshop I talk them through a tune-in process. In a feeling of relaxation, I ask them to be aware of what they are feeling physically and emotionally without judgement. Only when we know what is going on in our body right now, can we choose to change it if we want to. I liken the process to using a GPS. We need to know where we are now if we want to get to the correct destination. At the end of the day the decision is yours. Do you want to live a life that you have chosen, that you are living by design, or are you going to live the one that turns up by default, and you end up feeling like a victim? Making that choice always requires courage. Dr Rollo May, a distinguished psychiatrist, once wrote, “The opposite of courage in our society is not cowardice, it is conformity.”

Napoleon Hill wrote the book, “Think and Grow Rich.” In this he devotes a whole chapter to Decision. Like making a decision, responsibility is a choice. When you accept responsibility for your life and for the results that you want, you can break free of the constraints that a life by default brings. A life where we feel it is all happening to us and we have to accept it. Our brains are plastic and can be changed at any time. When you make the changes, you will develop confidence that it is possible to react to life with the freedom you desire.

Enjoy creating freedom from being aware of the choices you can make!

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