Author Archives: Robyn Vintiner

Start Living NOW!!

“Start living now.  Stop saving the china for that special occasion.  Stop withholding your love until that special person materialises.  Every day you are alive is a special occasion.  Every minute, every breath is a gift from God.  Mary Manin Morrissey

This quote reminds me of a woman called Loretta Laroche. She calls herself a humour therapist & she certainly looks at the mundane things of life from a humorous point of view. I’ve heard her talking about this very thing – keeping your best china only for visitors, having to be careful when the room has just been cleaned for guests and keeping your party clothes for special occasions. In her case that was a particular pair of frilly party pants which she says she still has to this day, but of course they no longer fit her. These are all about with-holding as are the suggestions from Mary Morrissey in this quote. As she says, we don’t have time or our breath with-held.

What can happen as we do this? We may find it takes energy as we are going against the flow. We are resisting the natural giving. If we resisted taking the breath we are being given, we would die. As long as we live another year, we are all given 365 days. What are you going to do with yours that allows life to flow through you rather than kinking the hose with resistance? What could you do today that you have been putting off or resisting, that will encourage the flow of life to move through you, rather than being blocked and causing illness or unhappiness?

Enjoy feeling the satisfaction in your body when you “go with the flow!”

What’s Your Story?

“You have an entire story to tell & no one can tell it quite like you.”  Byron Embry

Just like an author who is writing a book, we can change our story at any time.   As humans we have a mind that can alter the outcome of our lives.  Your life is full of lessons, experiences, good and bad and behind all of them is a powerful message that you are meant to share with the world that could leave an impression on someone that could change their life. What story do you want to leave in the minds of your children? A few years ago I was at an event where Les Brown was speaking. As he came in front of our table he thumped his fist down on the table as he said, “When you die do you want all your dreams and desires to say, we came to you for life and now we have to die with you!” A very powerful moment that I don’t think I’ll ever forget.

What limiting story are you allowing to dictate how your life should be? Are you procrastinating? Are you allowing those insidious voices in your head to keep you small? Imagine a book on the desk in front of you with the pages on the left all written, and the pages on the right are all blank, waiting for the words to appear. Are you going to live your life by default, as the words get written for you or are you going to live by design where you get to write the words consciously having made a decision about what you want to put on those blank pages? It is never too late to choose a life by design. It doesn’t matter how old, how young, or what your skills are right now. You could literally get a cheap notebook or something inspiring if that is going to get you going. Write down the dream life you intend to live then break it down into goals and plans. Bring that story to life!

Enjoy getting your dream machine cranked up!

Which Kind of Person are You?

“There are two kinds of people in this world: those who want to get things done and those who don’t want to make mistakes.”  John C Maxwell

Which kind do you think you are? I sat and contemplated this when I first read this quote. I’m sure when I was younger I didn’t want to make mistakes and there could still be an element of that in there but on the whole I am taking more risks and putting myself out there. However there are times when I slip back into the old ways, the old habits. This is especially true when I’m doing something new and I have expectations of myself to be an expert earlier in the process than I’m capable of. If I wasn’t being so quick to judge myself I would see that I would make better progress if I allowed the process to take place instead of allowing the stress to cause a resistance.

I have just been watching some of the winter Olympics. I have no way of knowing who is more experienced than another, but when they’re facing a steep slope of jumps and turns ahead it can be obvious who is going for it even if it means bombing out and being put out of a competition they have trained so hard to be in. There are others who look as though they are being careful, being safe. They may end up still on their feet at the end of the hill, but are they satisfied that they have done their best. Are you satisfied with yourself when you know you have been very careful, but you have not done your best? As with everything in life, there is a fine line to walk between being stupid with the risks and being too careful to feel the satisfaction of a job well done. What could you do differently today that proves to yourself that you are putting your all into what you are doing even if it feels risky?

Enjoy doing your best even if it means making mistakes!

Glass Half Full or Half Empty?

I’m sure you have all heard the term ‘the glass half-full or half-empty.’ I am reading a book, “The Millionaire Course,” by Marc Allen at the moment. He has chosen to label one of the chapters about this very subject. He has a quote in there that he hasn’t attributed to anyone else so I’m assuming it is his own. “Each one of us has been given a great gift: the cup of life. It is half full and half empty. We choose which half to focus on, at every moment.” Unfortunately it isn’t always a conscious choice. But if we want to pull ourselves out of the negativity that we can resort to, we need to start focusing consciously on the part of the glass that is half full. As Marc Allen says, “This is the half that contains all our unique gifts and strengths, all our dreams and creative ideas.” The more we can focus on this the more likely we are going to attract what we want into our lives.

A lot of my clients come because they are going through a period of anxiety, fear or depression. It can be hard to focus on the positive when we are feeling so low. But this is what we need to do, to focus on our strengths, to focus on what we are grateful for and focus on the things we want and the way we want to be. Remember, if we didn’t have these dark periods of our life, we wouldn’t appreciate it when we feel good. It’s like yin and yang, we need the contrast. But of course we don’t want to stay there for long periods. The key is to spend more of your time focusing on your strengths, your dreams and the things that are going well. When you do this, the natural laws create more of those things you focus on.

Enjoy focusing on the part of the glass that is half full!

Chance or Change, What’s it Going to Be?

“Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.”   Jim Rohn

I started listening to Jim Rohn back in the 80’s when his material was on tape and I loved his clear ‘in your face’ quotes. What I’m hearing here is, “it’s all up to you, stop sitting around waiting for someone to wave a magic wand for the miracle to happen.” Yes we are at the time of the year when the New Year energy gives us a kick up the backside to verbalise what changes we want to make. As we all know though, words can be cheap. I would say though that in this instance words are actually expensive. What is it costing you to stay where you are, to stay stuck in the habits of a lifetime? We all know that unless we change the activity, the outcomes don’t change, but we’re going to have to take our heads out of the sand for long enough to see the changes we need to make, and the message is strong enough for us to want to do it. 

What is it going to take to say enough is enough, it’s time to make a stand? What is going to take to say I’m sick of waiting for something else to happen, I’m sick of getting my present results, I’m sick of repeating the same year over and over. The 3rd ‘C’ in this equation is choice. We can all exercise that choice to take a chance so that our lives can change. In the words of a key note speaker I heard about 10 years ago which stuck with me, “When would NOW be a good time?”  

Enjoy making the changes you know you want!

Belief, Faith, Confidence are Essential

“Believe in Yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers, you cannot be successful or happy.  Norman Vincent Peale

All the latest research is showing us how much control we have over own destiny. It doesn’t matter what has happened to us in our lives, it is ultimately up to us to cause the future to happen the way we want it to. This might be hard if we want to blame our parents, our teachers, the government or whoever else for our lack of progress. But as soon as we blame someone else we are giving them the power to have to change things, & they may not want to do that now or ever. Here in New Zealand our government is in power for 3 years. What could you be doing for yourself in that time while you wait for a change in the party leading the country?

I know some of us have had a rough past & it seems fair enough that someone else should get the blame for our position in life. And if you were to get successful, you wouldn’t need to keep blaming them & you may still want to hold on to that victim story, crazy as that may sound. We are complex beings, but the sooner we can let go of that feeling that we need someone else to do something before we can create some success in our life, the sooner we will be on the road to manifesting the life we want & have a confidence in what we have achieved. I’m sure you’ve heard this before & I know it all takes work, but you might need to ask yourself, “How long do I want to stay trapped where I am?” If you’re ready to say, “Now is the time to let go of the old beliefs and move forward,” then you’re probably ready to do what it takes!

Enjoy having the confidence to let go the beliefs that are keeping you stuck!

Where to From Here?

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.  Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking.  Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice.  And most important, have the courage to follow your heart & intuition.  They somehow already know what you truly want to become.  Everything else is secondary.”  Steve Jobs 1955- 2011, Co-Founder of Apple Computer. 

Do I need to add my pennies worth to this. He covers a lot of ground in this quote. It is a good time of the year whether you believe in resolutions or not, the New Year’s energy can be uplifting. It can be a turning point to look at what didn’t work in 2017. You don’t want to repeat that unless you want the same results for 2018. Do you tune into what your gut or heart is telling you about what your next steps should be? I have been guilty in the past, of paying too much attention to what others are saying & not listening to what my own internal intelligence is saying. This continues to be a work in progress as I listen to others who appear to have the answers, so I think that they must KNOW! But why is that? I’ve seen children with more clues than some of us adults. I am living what I believe is my path, but it can be hard sometimes to drown out the voices of strong opinionated people, especially if they are saying what the little voices of doubt have been expressing in my head.

And sometimes it does take courage to follow your heart and intuition. The more of this work that I do, the more I am convinced that I can manifest what I want, if I can keep the wants & not the don’t wants holding centre stage in my head. I have had too many evidences of this throughout my life. I’m sure you have had evidence as well, but often we don’t pay attention, we don’t notice, because the little things like finding a car park exactly where we want it, seem too insignificant. We can build on this understanding, trusting in ourselves and the universe to deliver, if we keep visualizing what it is that we want to achieve in our lives. Maybe it’s a certain way we would like to be, and then feel better about who we are becoming in the world. Then as Steve Jobs says, everything else is secondary.

Enjoy following your own voice!

Do You Trust the Universe or Yourself?

“Trust the universe.  Trust means, that the circumstances you are in, are working toward your best and most appropriate end.” Gary Zukav

Zukav wrote the New York Times bestseller, ‘The Seat of the Soul, an Inspiring Vision of Humanity’s Spiritual Destiny’, 20 years ago.  In that he devoted a whole chapter to trust.  Over the last couple of years I have been reminded over and over that life can feel more peaceful if I don’t try to control the outcome, if I can let go the attachment of the outcome.  For someone used to pushing through life this has been a hard lesson (& I hasten to add, it isn’t over yet).

In these thoughts this week I am mainly concentrating on the Trust of the Universe. When you next have some quiet time, think or meditate about the other aspect of trust – that of trusting ourselves and other people. The answer to this will be reflected in how we interact with the world. So back to the Universe.

How do we know whether we are being the person we came into this earth experience to be?  How can we trust, when our circumstances don’t inspire us.  It is these feelings of discontent about our present circumstances or the longing for something better that cause us to grow and become more empowered to trust the process.  If we are doing what we feel passionate about and feel life has a purpose, that is the first step in living our dream life.  Are you doing what is in alignment with your core values, do you need to learn more, do you need some help to achieve your dreams & are your dreams going to enhance other people’s lives?  If you can say, ‘Yes’, to all of these you know that you are moving in the right direction for your life.

Now all you need to do, is Trust that the universe will create the experiences necessary to achieve your dreams.  Start noticing the little ‘coincidences’ that keep cropping up & it helps to then trust that the universe knows what it’s doing!

Enjoy letting go & TRUSTING!     

Are you Ready for 2018?

“Achieving your goals is NOT a problem of goal setting.  We are goal setting experts.  Goal achieving is an issue of continuous and consistent decision making.”   Unknown

As we say good bye to 2017 a good percentage of us make goals to make changes in 2018.  Research has shown however, that most of us fail to follow through on those goals.  As the quote says setting the goals is easy, it’s the commitment we need to achieve them.

Next time you are faced with a decision to do something, ask yourself, “Is this action/behaviour going to move me closer to my goal?  And if not, do you want to give up one of your precious 525,600 minutes of 2018 to take this action?”  We all get given the same number of minutes each year, as long as we keep breathing.  How do you plan to use your allocation in a balanced way?

A builder uses a blueprint to get a house to completion as the owner wants, just as you have made your goals.  The builder has to go to the building site each day and follow the blueprint if the house is to be finished, just as you need to stay vigilant and protect your brand new baby year if you want to achieve your dreams.

Enjoy living those 525,600 minutes as you achieve your goals!

Each New Year Starts with One Day

As the year comes to a close, it is a time for reflection – a time to release old thoughts and beliefs and forgive old hurts. Whatever has happened in the past year, the New Year brings fresh beginnings. Exciting new experiences and relationships await. Let us be thankful for the blessings of the past and the promise of the future.  Peggy Toney Horton

Well, how did you all survive Xmas day with all the family stresses that pop up at times like that? We all hope it is going to be different this time around. Maybe we’ve done some work on ourselves and we were keen to see how we would stand up to the different energies that come together at these times. But it was harder than we had imagined. Every day is a new day, a time to look forward and not back. To recognise that we did the best we could under the circumstances on the day and don’t judge where we feel we may have not done as well as we thought we should. That doesn’t solve anything. It closes down our hearts when we are criticised or judged including from ourselves. We need our hearts to be beating evenly or in what is called coherence.  This is the best aim for our emotional stability.

The New Year is a great time to make a new resolve to honour what we are trying to do and persist with the decisions that we want to happen. Rather than hoping or having a half-hearted attempt at a plan, we need to have the resolve of an intention, a belief that this time we will get the job done, not with the judgement for the lack of forward movement in 2017, not with a memory of all the negatives, instead with a memory of the positive energy that comes with recognising the achievements no matter how small and building on them. I wish you all a bright 2018 with a lot of self-encouragement as you face exciting new experiences and improved relationships.

Enjoy your fresh beginnings.