“If there are no ups and downs in your life, it means you are dead.”
A few years ago I was doing a trek in Nepal, and on the first day we were walking along the valley floor and the guide pointed upwards and said, “That’s where we are staying tonight.” My heart sank, to see the height of the hill/mountain we had to climb. But there was no alternative and we had chosen this particular route so that we could see the sunrise from the ‘top of the world,’ the next morning. And what an experience that was, with hundreds of others from all parts of the world, joined with one common exciting purpose. So the contrast was amazing! Yes it would have been easier to just walk along a flat path, but we would never have had that fantastic experience.
Life is also like that. How do we get the contrast of light and shadow, of good times and ‘bad,’ if we only ever have one basic experience? Life would become monotonous. The rich tapestry of special moments wouldn’t be treasured, if we didn’t have some challenges to gives us the contrast. Maybe even some pride in ourselves when we have overcome something that perhaps we didn’t know we could do. It takes acceptance of both the good points we have and the points we would rather hide, to make us who we are and what we have to offer the world.
Enjoy staying alive with both the ups and downs in your life! Robyn
“The conclusion that many heroes for a better world have discovered, is that helping others to be happy, is the surest way to find happiness.” Robert Alan
Have you heard of psychic income? This is the name for the feeling we get when we have done something for someone else that makes us feel good. The more we can do in life that gives us that feel good factor, the better it is for our general vibration, our health and ultimately our happiness. It can also give us a different perspective on life that makes us grateful that we have more health and fitness, or live in a better situation etc. And as I’ve said in previous newsletters, gratitude in itself can raise our vibration. Anything that we can do to raise our own vibration is going to be of benefit, not only to us but also to those around us. So you can see that making others happy by helping them is creating happiness in ourselves and our loved ones.
The more we focus inwardly on how bad we personally feel when things don’t seem to be going that well, the less we exchange energy with the world around us. We shut down our hearts in an attempt to protect ourselves from being hurt. When we do that the conversation between the heart and the rest of the body doesn’t flow well. The messages from the heart that could be about trusting others when we feel good, is more about being suspicious of others when shut down. Of course, the reverse is true: the more we focus on other people & strive to uplift them, the more energy we get flowing through our own hearts and spirits. This is why the easiest way to feel better ourselves is to do something nice for someone else.
Enjoy being happy helping others!
“Only those who risk going too far can possibly find out how far they can go.” T S Elliot
One of the things I’ve done over the years, is take to the ski slopes on 2 skinny planks of wood. I started at an older age than some kids do these days and I know that until my skill improved I was definitely quite fearful. I would see little kids racing down the hill out of control without any apparent fear to hold them back. Once my skill improved, I also got a sense of a carefree, gay abandon especially when racing down the hill with a bunch of others who were also testing their boundaries. At the end of the day though I didn’t have the desire to spend lots of time weathering winter after winter to improve my skills to a point where I could race at a competitive level. I was content to have my skiing as a pleasurable past time not at a professional level.
But maybe there are some other things I could have pushed myself to do that would have gained different results. What about You? If you haven’t reached for your full potential in something, do you know why? Is it because of fear? Is it because you haven’t been encouraged to take some risks over the years? Maybe it is your belief system that allows that little voice in the head to persuade you that it isn’t a good idea to step outside your comfort and go for it! Maybe that is even happening now. If so does this quote cause you to be resistant and argue in your head with the author? Or does it give you a kick in the backside to take the steps you know you have been procrastinating about? So does that mean, giving yourself an encouraging pep-talk and taking that step you know you need to take to move forward? Have you tried talking to the fears, doubts and anxiety? These emotions will usually pop up when we’re going into something new. Our non-conscious mind is all about keeping us safe so it wants to warn us when we try these new sporting or work related activities. It will also want to take charge when we’re going into a new relationship. When you recognise that it’s time to let go of the stranglehold these limiting beliefs have over you, and you persuade the uncomfortable emotions to take a back seat for a while, you can set your intention to achieve what it is that you want and go for it!
Enjoy working towards your dream!
“Start living now. Stop saving the china for that special occasion. Stop withholding your love until that special person materialises. Every day you are alive is a special occasion. Every minute, every breath is a gift from God. Mary Manin Morrissey
This quote reminds me of a woman called Loretta Laroche. She calls herself a humour therapist & she certainly looks at the mundane things of life from a humorous point of view. I’ve heard her talking about this very thing – keeping your best china only for visitors, having to be careful when the room has just been cleaned for guests and keeping your party clothes for special occasions. In her case that was a particular pair of frilly party pants which she says she still has to this day, but of course they no longer fit her. These are all about with-holding as are the suggestions from Mary Morrissey in this quote. As she says, we don’t have time or our breath with-held.
What can happen as we do this? We may find it takes energy as we are going against the flow. We are resisting the natural giving. If we resisted taking the breath we are being given, we would die. As long as we live another year, we are all given 365 days. What are you going to do with yours that allows life to flow through you rather than kinking the hose with resistance? What could you do today that you have been putting off or resisting, that will encourage the flow of life to move through you, rather than being blocked and causing illness or unhappiness?
Enjoy feeling the satisfaction in your body when you “go with the flow!”
“You have an entire story to tell & no one can tell it quite like you.” Byron Embry
Just like an author who is writing a book, we can change our story at any time. As humans we have a mind that can alter the outcome of our lives. Your life is full of lessons, experiences, good and bad and behind all of them is a powerful message that you are meant to share with the world that could leave an impression on someone that could change their life. What story do you want to leave in the minds of your children? A few years ago I was at an event where Les Brown was speaking. As he came in front of our table he thumped his fist down on the table as he said, “When you die do you want all your dreams and desires to say, we came to you for life and now we have to die with you!” A very powerful moment that I don’t think I’ll ever forget.
What limiting story are you allowing to dictate how your life should be? Are you procrastinating? Are you allowing those insidious voices in your head to keep you small? Imagine a book on the desk in front of you with the pages on the left all written, and the pages on the right are all blank, waiting for the words to appear. Are you going to live your life by default, as the words get written for you or are you going to live by design where you get to write the words consciously having made a decision about what you want to put on those blank pages? It is never too late to choose a life by design. It doesn’t matter how old, how young, or what your skills are right now. You could literally get a cheap notebook or something inspiring if that is going to get you going. Write down the dream life you intend to live then break it down into goals and plans. Bring that story to life!
Enjoy getting your dream machine cranked up!
“There are two kinds of people in this world: those who want to get things done and those who don’t want to make mistakes.” John C Maxwell
Which kind do you think you are? I sat and contemplated this when I first read this quote. I’m sure when I was younger I didn’t want to make mistakes and there could still be an element of that in there but on the whole I am taking more risks and putting myself out there. However there are times when I slip back into the old ways, the old habits. This is especially true when I’m doing something new and I have expectations of myself to be an expert earlier in the process than I’m capable of. If I wasn’t being so quick to judge myself I would see that I would make better progress if I allowed the process to take place instead of allowing the stress to cause a resistance.
I have just been watching some of the winter Olympics. I have no way of knowing who is more experienced than another, but when they’re facing a steep slope of jumps and turns ahead it can be obvious who is going for it even if it means bombing out and being put out of a competition they have trained so hard to be in. There are others who look as though they are being careful, being safe. They may end up still on their feet at the end of the hill, but are they satisfied that they have done their best. Are you satisfied with yourself when you know you have been very careful, but you have not done your best? As with everything in life, there is a fine line to walk between being stupid with the risks and being too careful to feel the satisfaction of a job well done. What could you do differently today that proves to yourself that you are putting your all into what you are doing even if it feels risky?
Enjoy doing your best even if it means making mistakes!
I’m sure you have all heard the term ‘the glass half-full or half-empty.’ I am reading a book, “The Millionaire Course,” by Marc Allen at the moment. He has chosen to label one of the chapters about this very subject. He has a quote in there that he hasn’t attributed to anyone else so I’m assuming it is his own. “Each one of us has been given a great gift: the cup of life. It is half full and half empty. We choose which half to focus on, at every moment.” Unfortunately it isn’t always a conscious choice. But if we want to pull ourselves out of the negativity that we can resort to, we need to start focusing consciously on the part of the glass that is half full. As Marc Allen says, “This is the half that contains all our unique gifts and strengths, all our dreams and creative ideas.” The more we can focus on this the more likely we are going to attract what we want into our lives.
A lot of my clients come because they are going through a period of anxiety, fear or depression. It can be hard to focus on the positive when we are feeling so low. But this is what we need to do, to focus on our strengths, to focus on what we are grateful for and focus on the things we want and the way we want to be. Remember, if we didn’t have these dark periods of our life, we wouldn’t appreciate it when we feel good. It’s like yin and yang, we need the contrast. But of course we don’t want to stay there for long periods. The key is to spend more of your time focusing on your strengths, your dreams and the things that are going well. When you do this, the natural laws create more of those things you focus on.
Enjoy focusing on the part of the glass that is half full!
“Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.” Jim Rohn
I started listening to Jim Rohn back in the 80’s when his material was on tape and I loved his clear ‘in your face’ quotes. What I’m hearing here is, “it’s all up to you, stop sitting around waiting for someone to wave a magic wand for the miracle to happen.” Yes we are at the time of the year when the New Year energy gives us a kick up the backside to verbalise what changes we want to make. As we all know though, words can be cheap. I would say though that in this instance words are actually expensive. What is it costing you to stay where you are, to stay stuck in the habits of a lifetime? We all know that unless we change the activity, the outcomes don’t change, but we’re going to have to take our heads out of the sand for long enough to see the changes we need to make, and the message is strong enough for us to want to do it.
What is it going to take to say enough is enough, it’s time to make a stand? What is going to take to say I’m sick of waiting for something else to happen, I’m sick of getting my present results, I’m sick of repeating the same year over and over. The 3rd ‘C’ in this equation is choice. We can all exercise that choice to take a chance so that our lives can change. In the words of a key note speaker I heard about 10 years ago which stuck with me, “When would NOW be a good time?”
Enjoy making the changes you know you want!
“Believe in Yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers, you cannot be successful or happy. Norman Vincent Peale
All the latest research is showing us how much control we have over own destiny. It doesn’t matter what has happened to us in our lives, it is ultimately up to us to cause the future to happen the way we want it to. This might be hard if we want to blame our parents, our teachers, the government or whoever else for our lack of progress. But as soon as we blame someone else we are giving them the power to have to change things, & they may not want to do that now or ever. Here in New Zealand our government is in power for 3 years. What could you be doing for yourself in that time while you wait for a change in the party leading the country?
I know some of us have had a rough past & it seems fair enough that someone else should get the blame for our position in life. And if you were to get successful, you wouldn’t need to keep blaming them & you may still want to hold on to that victim story, crazy as that may sound. We are complex beings, but the sooner we can let go of that feeling that we need someone else to do something before we can create some success in our life, the sooner we will be on the road to manifesting the life we want & have a confidence in what we have achieved. I’m sure you’ve heard this before & I know it all takes work, but you might need to ask yourself, “How long do I want to stay trapped where I am?” If you’re ready to say, “Now is the time to let go of the old beliefs and move forward,” then you’re probably ready to do what it takes!
Enjoy having the confidence to let go the beliefs that are keeping you stuck!
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart & intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” Steve Jobs 1955- 2011, Co-Founder of Apple Computer.
Do I need to add my pennies worth to this. He covers a lot of ground in this quote. It is a good time of the year whether you believe in resolutions or not, the New Year’s energy can be uplifting. It can be a turning point to look at what didn’t work in 2017. You don’t want to repeat that unless you want the same results for 2018. Do you tune into what your gut or heart is telling you about what your next steps should be? I have been guilty in the past, of paying too much attention to what others are saying & not listening to what my own internal intelligence is saying. This continues to be a work in progress as I listen to others who appear to have the answers, so I think that they must KNOW! But why is that? I’ve seen children with more clues than some of us adults. I am living what I believe is my path, but it can be hard sometimes to drown out the voices of strong opinionated people, especially if they are saying what the little voices of doubt have been expressing in my head.
And sometimes it does take courage to follow your heart and intuition. The more of this work that I do, the more I am convinced that I can manifest what I want, if I can keep the wants & not the don’t wants holding centre stage in my head. I have had too many evidences of this throughout my life. I’m sure you have had evidence as well, but often we don’t pay attention, we don’t notice, because the little things like finding a car park exactly where we want it, seem too insignificant. We can build on this understanding, trusting in ourselves and the universe to deliver, if we keep visualizing what it is that we want to achieve in our lives. Maybe it’s a certain way we would like to be, and then feel better about who we are becoming in the world. Then as Steve Jobs says, everything else is secondary.
Enjoy following your own voice!
“Trust the universe. Trust means, that the circumstances you are in, are working toward your best and most appropriate end.” Gary Zukav
Zukav wrote the New York Times bestseller, ‘The Seat of the Soul, an Inspiring Vision of Humanity’s Spiritual Destiny’, 20 years ago. In that he devoted a whole chapter to trust. Over the last couple of years I have been reminded over and over that life can feel more peaceful if I don’t try to control the outcome, if I can let go the attachment of the outcome. For someone used to pushing through life this has been a hard lesson (& I hasten to add, it isn’t over yet).
In these thoughts this week I am mainly concentrating on the Trust of the Universe. When you next have some quiet time, think or meditate about the other aspect of trust – that of trusting ourselves and other people. The answer to this will be reflected in how we interact with the world. So back to the Universe.
How do we know whether we are being the person we came into this earth experience to be? How can we trust, when our circumstances don’t inspire us. It is these feelings of discontent about our present circumstances or the longing for something better that cause us to grow and become more empowered to trust the process. If we are doing what we feel passionate about and feel life has a purpose, that is the first step in living our dream life. Are you doing what is in alignment with your core values, do you need to learn more, do you need some help to achieve your dreams & are your dreams going to enhance other people’s lives? If you can say, ‘Yes’, to all of these you know that you are moving in the right direction for your life.
Now all you need to do, is Trust that the universe will create the experiences necessary to achieve your dreams. Start noticing the little ‘coincidences’ that keep cropping up & it helps to then trust that the universe knows what it’s doing!
Enjoy letting go & TRUSTING!