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Do you want to flat line?



“If there are no ups and downs in your life, it means you are dead.”

A few years ago I was doing a trek in Nepal, and on the first day we were walking along the valley floor and the guide pointed upwards and said, “That’s where we are staying tonight.”  My heart sank, to see the height of the hill/mountain we had to climb.  But there was no alternative and we had chosen this particular route so that we could see the sunrise from the ‘top of the world,’ the next morning.   And what an experience that was, with hundreds of others from all parts of the world, joined with one common exciting purpose.  So the contrast was amazing! Yes it would have been easier to just walk along a flat path, but we would never have had that fantastic experience.

Life is also like that.  How do we get the contrast of light and shadow, of good times and ‘bad,’ if we only ever have one basic experience?  Life would become monotonous.  The rich tapestry of special moments wouldn’t be treasured, if we didn’t have some challenges to gives us the contrast.  Maybe even some pride in ourselves when we have overcome something that perhaps we didn’t know we could do.  It takes acceptance of both the good points we have and the points we would rather hide, to make us who we are and what we have to offer the world.

Enjoy staying alive with both the ups and downs in your life!   Robyn

Thank you to my Loyal Subscribers



“Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.”  Anon

I thought this could be appropriate for this time of year when I saw the word present.  However it really isn’t anything about presents as such at all is it.  At this time of the year though we all get a bit frazzled with the word Xmas for some reason and it can be easy to forget to be grateful for the people who have done something for us from their frazzled state.  Being grateful however is not just for those people, but also for our world in general, the universe or whatever it is you believe is responsible for making life ok.

I had learnt this a while back and I got into the habit of saying thank you to the universe when something happened that could potentially have been a disaster but I was still safe.  Or sometimes I remember to say thank you for getting me home in one piece or my family all turn up in one piece.  It was then pointed out to me that as a co-creator of my universe maybe I should also be thinking of turning those thanks inwards, maybe I’ve listened to my intuition and kept myself safe that way.  Whatever or whoever is responsible for your health and good food, your home, your family, remember that giving thanks will improve the physiology of both the giver and receiver. If you remember to express true thanks to those giving you gifts or going the extra mile for you this Xmas, you will be taking steps to improve your own health!

Enjoy improving your health!

Have You Heard About the Law of the Garbage Truck?



I would like to share a story with you today from author unknown….

The Law of the Garbage/Rubbish Truck

One day I hopped into a taxi & we took off for the airport.  Suddenly a black car jumped out of the parking space right in front of us.  My taxi driver slammed on his breaks, skidded & missed the other car by just inches.  The driver of the other car whipped his head around & started yelling at us.  My taxi driver just smiled & waved at the guy.  So I asked, “Why did you just do that?  This guy almost caused an accident & sent us to the hospital.”  This is when my taxi driver taught me what I now call, “The Law of the Garbage Truck.”

He explained that many people are like garbage trucks.  They run around full of garbage, full of anger, full of disappointment & rage.  As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it & sometimes they’ll dump it on you.  Don’t take it personally.  Just smile, wave, wish them well & move on.  Don’t pick up their garbage & spread it to other people in your life, whether at work, at home, or to people that you don’t even know on the streets.

Always remember that good people do not let garbage trucks take over their day.  Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so…”Love the people who treat you right & forgive & pray for the ones who don’t.”

Isn’t this a good story!  I thought it was a good one for this time of year as we all get stressed about the things we have to do at work, the extra chores to do at home so we can get away on holiday on time, how to stretch the dollars so we can buy someone a special present & the list goes on.

Enjoy smiling & waving at the garbage trucks in your life!

Are You Living with Chance or Change



“There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them.”  Denis Waitley, speaker & author

Life is about choices.  As Denis Waitley says we can choose to go with life as it is, even if we’re not happy, maybe because we have a fear about making steps into unknown territory.  When we do there is a part of us that feels cheated, we may feel emotionally unhappy or sad, anxious or frustrated. Living this way, we are living by default, where life happens to us.  Of course everything in your life may be perfect & you don’t want to change anything.  The other way is to live by design & choose to make steps in the direction of what we want in our lives.  To make steps towards what we know is our purpose & gives energy to our heart.  Denis Waitley knows well how to help people make the changes they want, as he has had the responsibility for changing the psychology of the US Olympic teams and also the Apollo flight personnel. He also talks about the responsibility of helping to train the minds of the little people in his family. We have all been little people and parts of our minds may need to grow up.

This may mean changes, big or small.  There may be only 1 area of your life that needs attention to be balanced.  It doesn’t mean they have to be world shattering changes.  It could mean that you cut out the cake you eat each morning tea, it could mean you start your exercise regime with a short walk each day.  You know what those small steps or changes are. There’s no point in complaining about circumstances and conditions of your life. It is up to you to take the responsibility to change them or keep your mouth shut. There are consequences whatever we do in life. If you are happy to continue with your life exactly the way it is, then all you need to do is keep breathing and do what you’ve always done. If you want to make changes, then just like the US Olympic team, you may need help, because as the saying goes, “You can’t see the picture when you’re in the frame.” We grow by making changes!

Enjoy accepting the responsibility for change in your life!

Can’t Versus Don’t



“When someone tells you can’t do something, perhaps you should consider that they are only telling you what they can’t do.”  Sheldon Cahoon

This is certainly something helpful to remember before getting upset with someone who appears to be trying to limit you. We see this a lot with parents and grandparents limiting young children who are wanting to do something. “Watch out, careful, that’s for big kids,” etc. It may be that you have opened yourself up and been vulnerable with some friends about what you want to do.  Only to find that they have nothing positive to say, and they remind you of your failures in the past.

I have just read a post in a face book group that I’m part of. The author was talking about the different energy between the 2 words can’t and don’t. For example, “I can’t miss my workout today.” Or “I don’t miss workouts.” The words that we use not only help us make better choices on an individual basis, but also make it easier to stay on track with long-term goals. So why does “I don’t,” work better than, “I can’t.” Our words help to frame our sense of empowerment. And the words that you use create a feedback loop in our brains that impacts our future behaviours. Every time you tell yourself, “I can’t,” you’re creating a feedback loop that is a reminder of your limitations. This terminology indicates that you’re forcing yourself to do something you don’t want to do. In comparison, when you tell yourself, “I don’t,” you’re creating a feedback loop that reminds you of your control and power over the situation. It’s a phrase that can propel you towards breaking your bad habits and following your good ones.

Heidi Grant Halvorsen, director of the Motivation Science Centre at Columbia University explained the difference in response this way. “I don’t,” is experienced as a choice, so it feels empowering. It’s an affirmation of your determination and willpower. “I can’t,” isn’t a choice. It’s a restriction, that’s being imposed upon you. “I don’t,” is a psychologically empowering way to say “no,” while the phrase, “I can’t,” is a psychologically draining way to say, “no.”  Does this sound like something you can try? Notice how you feel inside with the 2 different responses.

The original article was written by James Clear.

Enjoy choosing the empowering way to say, “no.”

What Would You Like Help With?



“When smart people are stuck, they ask for help.”  Steve Jobs

Some people would consider that they are showing some sort of ignorance to the world if they asked for help. Others have developed a sense that they don’t need help from other people. Often of course we don’t actually know what we don’t know and therefore don’t reach out for the help we need. Here in New Zealand we are very proud of our DIY attitude to life, but sometimes that can also be our Achilles heel. This can definitely be the case with our own personal development. There is a saying, “that we can’t see the picture if we’re in the frame.”

We can buy a personal development book or a programme and we can understand intellectually what the author is saying, but when it comes to integrating the new practices into our own lives we’re not always sure where to start. Often a good friend can see the things in us that we would benefit from changing but we stay stuck in our old patterns because we don’t ask for the one little clue that could help us improve our relationships at work, with family and friends. What is it going to take you to ask for help from your limiting beliefs and patterns?

Enjoy connecting with another human being by asking for help!

What is You Vision for Your 2018



“A vision is not just a picture of what could be; it is an appeal to our better selves, a call to become something more.”  Rosabeth Moss Kanter

Have you written a vision statement at some point in your past? Maybe you have done more than one as things changed. Either you achieved most of the things in the vision or maybe your life took a change & you headed off down another track. Have you used a vision board? John Assaraf talks about the one he did on the film, “The Secret.” I have a vision board looking at me as I write this. I have a personal development speaker on there, called Jim Rohn. One of his famous quotes was, “To have more, we must first become more.” This is why I think the journey to the desired outcome is as important as the destination. As I work at the moment to make changes in my business, to step up my commitment, I find I’m on a huge learning curve, that can only force me to become more. For those of us who have been on the planet longer than others, some of the technology can really test us.

What is it that you are being tested over? Is this pushing you to become more & step up into the bigger vision you have for yourself. Have you written your vision down, with intimate detail & emotional connection? There are different schools of thought about whether we need to engage with the vision statement daily, that once it is written, the ‘order’ has gone out to the universe, and we don’t need to resolutely read it each day. Others of course say it is paramount. Either way, we do need the words we use to be in the present, don’t use the words don’t or not and so on. The sentences need to be positive. It is considered to be very important to engage with the emotions that you would be feeling if this vision was to be true, so add that. E.g. I love this house I am living in……and describe it. The topping on the cake is to be grateful for these things that have happened, even though they are in the future. Gratitude in itself will raise the emotional bar so we feel the emotions more intensely.

Enjoy committing your vision to ‘paper!’

What is Most Important to You, Time or Money?



“Time is more valuable than money. You can get more money, but you cannot get more time.”   Jim Rohn

I can remember even as a teenager, being acutely conscious of how I spent my time, I didn’t ever want to waste a second. If you agree with Jim Rohn then you are probably applauding my sentiment. But what it has done is made me a slave to time. I feel guilty if I’m a bit frivolous with time, if I choose to allow myself to get lost in catching up with people on facebook. I’m sure you’ve all been there. Maybe not the guilt, as that is such a destructive emotion. Being careful with each minute can be so responsible, but also it can feel like the energy of scarcity. And I don’t want to encourage that one. I was brought up with parents who went through the Depression, and even though we were in what would be termed, a ‘middle class’ family, we had to be so careful of everything! We didn’t waste anything. And there is nothing wrong with that as long as it doesn’t pervade everything you do.

Back in the late ‘90’s my husband and I owned motels. If we had an empty unit tonight we could never ever make that up again. Sure we could fill it tomorrow, but we could never sell that unit on that particular night ever again. Not like a book that will sit on the shelf until it is bought and which day that is, doesn’t make as much difference. So once again I became very conscious that each minute counted. Where is it that you are aware of the clock ticking and that you are not doing with time what you would like? We have to have given this some thought to actually know what we feel about the different ends of the spectrum. And once we have decided that right now I want to sit and do nothing more than enjoy the company of a good friend, then do that without getting anxious about the things you are not getting done off your list. That too is a valuable way to spend our precious time.

Enjoy choosing how to spend your time!

Does Failure Lead to Intelligence?



“Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.”  Henry Ford

Do you criticise yourself when you don’t reach the standard you have set for yourself or fail? Do you think you did that as a child when you were learning to walk & you fell or ‘failed’ over & over until you GOT IT? I know, it was probably preverbal so you won’t actually remember having to encourage yourself each effort. But that subconscious part of you that does most of the driving, will have been factoring in each off-balance movement you made, so that you could correct that bit next time. Just like a gymnast who has to do each move over & over until the nervous system has GOT IT!

The intelligence that Henry Ford is talking about is exactly that correction of the nervous system to do something differently next time so eventually that groove is so well worn, that that pathway is the most likely path to take. We do this physically all the time but we can do it with any of our emotional and personal development lessons as well. Recognising that and not jumping on the judgement bandwagon will be an encouragement that feels a lot better than the constant criticism. Just tune into your body’s messages. If you have tried something and it hasn’t worked out focus on how you feel about that. If the body is feeling low in energy, heavy or even fearful then you’ve probably just been critical or judgemental. Try turning that experience around and find the learning to apply the next time, so you can begin again “more intelligently!”

Enjoy treating ‘failure’ intelligently!

Are You Ready to Dive Through the Hoop in Flames?



“I advise you to say your dream is possible and then overcome all conveniences, ignore all the hassles and take a running leap through the hoop, even if it is in flames.”  S  Les Brown

Les Brown is quoted as saying, “Don’t let anyone else’s opinion become your reality.” Both of these quotes are encouraging us to dream but at the same time, we have to believe that the dream we have is possible, that we can overcome the obstacles and distractions that keep popping up. It is not only other people’s opinions that we allow to become our truth, but our own doubts and self-talk that cloud the vision of what we believe could be possible. I have talked before about the Law of Attraction always working but sometimes we are focusing more on why we can’t have something, rather than why it can happen.

If you really believed in the energetic, quantum physics of the world, what would you be doing to make your dream a reality? Would you be going to the computer shop to find exactly what you want? Would you be looking for a new job that is better than the one you have presently? Would you be scouring the travel pamphlets to find a place that really lights you up? I was in the first category. My computer was dying, so I started looking even though I wasn’t sure how it was going to happen. I had a birthday & my parents, brother & sister pitched in to buy one for me and here I am typing away on it. I hear you. You’re saying, my parents couldn’t afford to do that for me, if they are even alive. I don’t see how my dream is going to happen. If we can let go of the how, we will find that the universe has a heap more ideas than we do with our limited brain capacity – in relation to the universe. This is the hardest part of this deal – to let go of the how and trust that it will happen. We do HAVE TO BE CLEAR of what it is, and the WHY will give us the enthusiasm to take some action steps, even if we have to jump through burning hoops.

Enjoy being part of this process!

Are You finding it Difficult to be Persistent with Your Goals and Dreams?



“Continuous effort – not strength or intelligence – is the key to unlocking our potential.”  Sir Winston Churchill

I flippantly talked about persistence on a recent face book video post as I searched the town for a particular dress up garment I wanted to wear for my birthday party. It paid off. But of course persistence is something we all need if we want to achieve anything of value in life. There is a lot of talk about the Law of Attraction around Asking and Believing. These are 2 very important elements of manifesting our dreams, but we usually can’t just sit in the sun & do nothing as we wait for a suitcase full of money to drop in our lap. Sometimes it may seem that simple because we have asked & we do believe we can achieve that particular goal, but we have usually also done something towards making the dream a reality when it just seems to come into our lives.

Even if you have driven a test vehicle when you want a new car, you are telling the universe you are serious about what you have asked for, that you believe it can be yours even if you have to wait for a while, and that you’re prepared to trudge around the sales yards to find the best deal. You’re ‘acting as if.’ As if you had the money, as if you were ready to buy and as if you were ready to have a serious sales conversation with the dealer.  This is a scientific phenomenon of this energetic world that we live in. What are you prepared to be persistent about? Do you know what you want to ask for, that you believe you can achieve and that you know will be worth working for? In his book “Think and Grow Rich,” Napoleon Hill devotes a whole chapter to persistence. But remember you also need the other 2 legs of the stool to stay upright – the asking and believing.

Enjoy asking, believing and persisting, so you can unlock your potential!