“If there are no ups and downs in your life, it means you are dead.”
A few years ago I was doing a trek in Nepal, and on the first day we were walking along the valley floor and the guide pointed upwards and said, “That’s where we are staying tonight.” My heart sank, to see the height of the hill/mountain we had to climb. But there was no alternative and we had chosen this particular route so that we could see the sunrise from the ‘top of the world,’ the next morning. And what an experience that was, with hundreds of others from all parts of the world, joined with one common exciting purpose. So the contrast was amazing! Yes it would have been easier to just walk along a flat path, but we would never have had that fantastic experience.
Life is also like that. How do we get the contrast of light and shadow, of good times and ‘bad,’ if we only ever have one basic experience? Life would become monotonous. The rich tapestry of special moments wouldn’t be treasured, if we didn’t have some challenges to gives us the contrast. Maybe even some pride in ourselves when we have overcome something that perhaps we didn’t know we could do. It takes acceptance of both the good points we have and the points we would rather hide, to make us who we are and what we have to offer the world.
Enjoy staying alive with both the ups and downs in your life! Robyn
“Look in the mirror. That is your ONLY competition.”
In the past I have been guilty of seeing only the flaws, the things I don’t like about myself when I look in the mirror. Not long after I had first trained to be a coach I went to a weekend training where we had to look in the mirror & say, “I love you.” I really struggled to do that back then but after working on myself and learning that each and every one of us is special, I can honestly look at myself and appreciate the person looking back at me. Yes I may still be carrying more weight than I would like, but that’s no reason to stop loving who I am at the core of me. A lot of what we think or feel is about the messages we have been given from our parents, our teachers, siblings and friends without them realising that we have come up with a completely different understanding than what was intended.
That competition the writer of this quote is talking about, is the story we are telling ourselves about who we think we are. If we don’t change that story or message we start to believe that voice. The voice that tells us we could do better, that we are not good enough or when are we going to sharpen up. So if I look in the mirror and only see the person the voice is talking about, the one that tells me I need to lose weight, that’s what I see. If however I change that recording to a more positive one, that tells me the positive things about who I am, I see those in the mirror. What are you seeing when you look in the mirror? Do you see the person you want to see, or the one you want to criticise and judge?
Enjoy loving the you, you see in the mirror!
“You will never have this day again, so make it count.”
I don’t know how many of you have written out your dreams, desires, goals or plans for the next 90 days, year, 5 years. Even if you haven’t written them and only thought about them, you have put that message out to the universe that these dreams are what you want in your life. Do you think this dream or these plans are worthy of you? Whatever you do any day of the year, you are giving up your life for. So think carefully, feel into whether your tasks in your business, your holiday plans or your JOB are making you feel expansive or whether they constrict you. I feel very blessed that I have had a career that I have loved. I love working with & relating to people who come in and out of my life.
People are my life blood. I feel happiest when I’m working with or relaxing with people. Even if I’m sitting here tapping away on the keyboard I am interacting with whoever is choosing to read what I have written that interaction also makes me feel expansive rather than constricted. It doesn’t feel like work. It may to some of you. You may prefer to be sitting reading a book or watching your favourite TV programme. Make no mistake though, whatever you are doing, you are giving up every single one of those minutes of your life for the choice you have made, so make it count as you will never get those minutes back again.
Enjoy feeling expansive!
“Desire is the effort of the unexpressed possibility within you, attempting to express itself through you in physical form.” – Wallace D Wattles
New Year is a big time of desires coming to the front of our minds. As we get busy leading up to Xmas, a lot of us try to ignore the fact that we haven’t actually got a lot closer to our desires that we started with in the New Year. We were full of hope that this year was going to be different. But somehow life got in the way. We slowly drifted back into the ways that were familiar, away from trying something new. This metaphysical idea that our thoughts are just things, still in an abstract form, is something we may struggle with. We may still consider it Woo Woo to believe that we can change our reality just by focusing on different thoughts. Wallace D Wattles wrote the book “The Science of Getting Rich.” Of course we all think of rich as in, more money than we currently have, but he was meaning rich in the wider sense of the word and one of the chapters of this book was what the movie “The Secret,” was based on.
The Law of Attraction is always working whether we think we are connected or not. Just because you put in your order for something off the menu of life, does not mean the waitress is going to bring it to you, especially if you keep changing your mind or you’re not specific enough for the chef to fully understand your desires. Stay with this concept of ordering a meal for a minute. If you kept changing your order that the waitress took out to the kitchen, you can see that the chef might get a tad confused as to what exactly it is that you want to arrive on your plate. This is what happens when we spend 5 minutes each morning focusing on our dream life, before hopping into the car to go to work. Before we even get there, someone has cut us off, the lights turn red and we’re conscious we really should have got out of bed earlier so that we could leave for work in better time. Those thoughts are the orders that are then going out into the kitchen of the universe. If the stressed thoughts, the negative thoughts or pessimistic thoughts are the dominant ones, that is what we attract because that is the order the chef is getting, day in and day out. So for that short 5 minutes of meditation in the morning the chef sits up and takes notice that something new is being ordered but unless it stays that way, the chef is going to continue to serve up what is your most common, focused order. And this is how we know what are predominant thoughts are, when we see what is being served up to us on a daily basis. So if you want that to change, you will need to change that regular order.
Enjoy starting the order change on New Year’s Eve.
“Happiness is when you feel good about yourself without the need for anyone else’s approval.” Anon
I went into my list of you people who receive my Rejuvenating Thoughts, to change an address. I was reminded how loyal you my readers are. I do want you to know that I appreciate that my work is being read. I hope we will continue our journey together into 2020. If I’m not careful I will be feeling happiness purely because I know my email to you each week is being seen. However, to my message below.
Is this what you felt on Xmas day, or was it conditional on someone being there or your grandchildren showing up, and let’s face it, there is nothing like grandchildren to pick up your spirits. Or did you go out and make your happiness by helping others less fortunate than yourself. We have a great tradition here in Dunedin where there is a big Xmas meal put on in the middle of the day in the Town Hall and it is manned by volunteers. I haven’t been here in the past and if I hadn’t had family, I think that is where I would like to be, although I believe they have more offers of help than they need. I used to have that feeling in the hospital on Xmas or other holidays when people weren’t well enough to go home. It always seemed like the normal hustle and bustle of the hospital had slowed down, and we all had more time just to be with people even if it wasn’t actually for long.
What are some things you would like to be doing to feel good about yourself and the world, without needing others to supply that feel good factor? If we aren’t reliant on others to feel happy and it comes from within, we can be happy whenever we want. We don’t have to wait until someone else comes around with a bounce in their step. Have you learnt how you can help yourself, ‘up the energy of happiness for you and those around you? We have only 2 days left of 2019 to reflect on what we did well this year, and what we feel we could have done better. Are we letting this cold wintery summer affect how we feel about ourselves and how we are showing up in the world? This isn’t about the judgement and negativity, more about the how can I be more responsible for my own happiness in the future. And with the new decade fast approaching it is a good time to be reflecting on not just what we want to do next year but also how we want to BE!
Enjoy feeling the happiness from within!
“Once the game is over, the king and the pawn go back in the same box.” Anon
I don’t know anything about chess, but like any game, the results mean nothing in the scheme of things. This was a big lesson for an old coach of mine who was playing monopoly with older family members. Each time they pulled out the board she longed to win, to show them that she was worth taking notice of. Then finally the day came when filled with excitement, she got to her goal. But it was a very empty excitement when her mother called them for dinner & tipped the game back into a box. What she learnt, it was just a game, that we need to let go of any attachment to the outcome as is the case in life.
However, the other lesson we can learn from this quote, is that within every shape or colour we are all the same. No matter what we do in life whether the surgeon, the film star or the street sweeper, we are all the same. We are all part of the universe like a cell of a body. We all have a part to play, a strength that can benefit the whole. So this other person who is either pushing your button or whom you admire, is just a reflection of yourself. So take note where you might recognise the ‘king’ or ‘pawn’ in someone else & where you might find it in yourself. This can be a helpful lesson.
Enjoy recognising the king or pawn in yourself!
“Decide…. whether or not the goal is worth the risks involved. If it is, stop worrying….” Amelia Earhart
Do you know what your goals are? Have you done any planning around them?
Do you know there are 3 different types of goals!: the ones that you know you can accomplish because you know exactly what to do; secondly the ones you think you can do, like buying a house and the agent is there to help you; thirdly the real fantasy type ones that scare and excite you at the same time. If this last one really ignites your passion then that big WHY will take you past the hurdles of setbacks, discouragement and listening to the negative voices in your head. Because these big ideas light up a different part of the brain, we need to keep the goals separate from the big dreams or Aspirations that we have.The goals will be part of the strategic steps we take along the way.
I know you’ve probably been getting a ton of emails advising you to start now, pleading with you to take the next step and trying to put you into the mindset that you need their help. Research shows that if we write down our goals we have more likelihood of achieving them. But I read conflicting advice about whether we should consistently say them throughout the day, or once we have written them down and asked the universe to help we achieve them by staying in the right energy – you have done your bit as far as the metaphysical idea of asking is concerned and you then shall receive. Either way, if you have faith that you can achieve this goal you are more likely to get there. So stop worrying about how that is going to happen! Apparently that is not our business. As we work on our ideas, the how will come to us and the path can seem easier to achieve than it had when we were worrying our day away.
Enjoy setting, planning and achieving your goals!
“You cannot change anything in your life with intention alone, which can become a watered-down, occasional hope that you’ll get to tomorrow. Intention without action is useless.” Caroline Myss
Think back to yesterday. What was your intention to do with that day that would never come again? Did you take action on your plans – even if that was to take time out to do something restful, relaxing and charging of the batteries?
Yes I know it can be overwhelming when we look at our to-do list even on a Sunday, so keep the intentions to a list that could be achieved in a day. Then celebrate your achievements.
As well as intention of what we want to do, have you thought about how you want to ‘be’ in the day you have ahead of you? And if so, do the 2 lists match up. Are you happy, grateful and compassionate or are you so busy ‘doing’ that you don’t have time to smile or say hello to a stranger.
Enjoy living with intention and action!
Caroline Myss is a medical intuitive, prolific writer and international speaker with work that really makes you think.
“Courage is not the absence of fear but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” Nelson Mandela
This is where my journey into Life Coaching started. Feeling fear for pretty much the first time. Yes I have felt fear before an exam or before stepping out on to the balance pole several metres above the ground – even though I had a harness on, but this was different. I was with a group of people who were feeling excited about the situation we were in. I asked if anyone else was feeling fear and they looked at me as though I was a bit strange. We are told that both excitement and fear produce the same hormones or chemicals in our body. But it is our perception of that feeling that links the word with it. I would wake with it each morning, have it hang around as a low-grade anxiety all day and then when I finally fell asleep I was no longer aware of it.
As I went through the process of learning to coach, I found some different tools and techniques to change my perception. The problem was, my Mum, bless her, didn’t want us to get disappointed about things that could be coming up, so she frequently said to us, “don’t get too excited it might never happen.” So I suppose I forgot how to feel excited. I can now, all beit a little more watered down than some. I’m still working on exercising the courage and excited muscles, and it feels so good when I am able to really feel that nervous energy with a sense that it is feels good not something to be fearful of. Real fear is there to keep us safe from danger. But often our brains think they are keeping us safe when really all that has happened is, we have had a thought about a situation that drags out past experiences and makes up wonderful stories that send us down the slippery slope of fear.
Enjoy feeling the courage to move through the fear!
“Almost every successful person begins with 2 beliefs: the future can be better than the present, & I have the power to make it so.” Anon
So working on the assumption that this is true, do you think you are heading for success? Maybe you already are successful but hadn’t identified these beliefs as being part of the reason why. However what I term successful may be completely different from your definition. Earl Nightingale once said that: “Success is really nothing more than the progressive realization of a worthy goal” So if you have some goals and you are working towards them, then you would be considered successful. Most of us however are striving for more than that. Maybe that’s why we’re not as happy as we would like. But that is another topic.
With 2020 just around the corner have you even started writing out your goals or dreams for the new decade? Research shows that just the act of writing them down makes it more likely for them to manifest. For some, the visualisation process is the boost they need to keep moving forward towards their desires. For others, using a vision board is very powerful in a metaphysical sense. Whatever we choose, engaging the senses and emotions is helping us to “advance confidently in the direction of our dreams. And if we endeavour to live the life which we have imagined,” as Henry David Thoreau adds in his quote, “we will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”
Enjoy planning your success for 2020!
“Business is an art, which you can master if you work from the heart and work with love.” Venus
Back in the ‘80s the mind was recognised as having a huge part to play in our physical and emotional lives. The connection between body, mind and spirit became the catch word. The conscious mind is what we need on a daily basis to make decisions and work us through the reasoning process. However the more subconscious part is operating on automatic in the background, having remembered everything you have done or had done to you. When these messages have been repeated enough times we become conditioned to believing the ‘lies’ we have been told over the years and we often operate from its instructions.
The heart is a powerful connection between our physical bodies and the universal mind or spirit with a much bigger body of knowledge to operate from. If we listen to its directions, we may make different decisions than those based on what has happened in the past. It is important for us, in both our personal lives and our careers, to let the heart lead the way. If we are truly loving what we do, and follow our hearts, we will find that we don’t have to push so hard for things to happen. Just like an artist or a musician, who is working at their passion ‘in the zone,’ life will flow in a direction that our conditioned minds may have never thought of.
Enjoy getting out of your heads and into your hearts!