hang In There Long Enough!



“When you have exhausted all possibilities, remember this you haven’t.”  Thomas Edison

Having apparently tried 2000 times before he sorted out a light bulb for us, I’m thinking he has the right to make this comment. We will never know how many times we have to try at something before we get the right solution to our problem, if we give up. Henry Ford also had this approach where he had the belief that he could get the type of engine he wanted as long as he was prepared to continue paying the engineers until they designed what he wanted.  Has this happened to you? Sometimes we need a break while we do something else that doesn’t take a lot of brain power. Wash the dishes, mow the lawn while you let your brain go into neutral, and bingo the answer arrives.

Edison used to sit in a rocking chair as he meditated and went to the “Land of Solutions.” This was something he thought was very important and something we all could do. He felt most of us didn’t stay with our problems for long enough to get the answers we wanted. Those who design or discover things obviously stay with the problem long enough to go beyond what others thought was possible. Are you aware of sorting problems out like this? Do you have some quiet time each day where you ask the questions you want answers for? Remember the answers may not come immediately, if you ask before you go to sleep your subconscious will go to work overnight to come up with an answer that you can work on next day.

Enjoy finding your answers from the universal mind!

Can You Control Your Mind All the Time?



“I cannot always control what goes on outside. But I can always control what goes on inside.”   Wayne Dyer

Although Wayne says this with conviction, I know a lot of us don’t feel we have the ability to control what goes on inside much either. The subconscious mind remembers everything that has happened to us over the years and it seems to have the upper hand even when we are really trying hard in a conscious way to be different, do things differently and feel differently about the world around us and about ourselves. Often when we are under stress for any number of reasons, the old tried and true patterns rear their ugly heads no matter how hard we try. Right at the moment I am going through a stressful situation with my dad’s health, and it is interesting to see how we all revert to patterns that were there when we were children.

As Wayne says though, we can control what goes on inside if we have the will to do so. It just may not be as easy as he makes it sound. Having an awareness of what we are doing is a start. If we are not aware, how will we know what we want to change? It’s a matter of tracking our behaviour, being present in the moment, on a regular basis. Notice what we are happy with and what we are not. What are we feeling physically and emotionally and what changes we would like to make right here and now! At the very least we can vow to do better next time and even put some strategies in place of how we might be better next time. It’s only by going through regular mindfulness as the day progresses that we can turn the tide of behaviours that no longer serve us. Probably never have! We do not have to sit like a yogi to be mindful. Being able to incorporate the reflection or mindfulness as we go through life is more likely to bring the results we want when busy and stressed.

Enjoy tracking what you are feeling regularly throughout the day!

Do You Want to Break the Egg From the Inside?



“If an egg is broken by an outside force, life ends. If broken by an inside force, life begins. Great things always begin from the inside.”   Jim Kwik

I love the picture I get when I think of a tiny bird or chick breaking the shell of their egg from the inside. If you understand the power your mind has to create whatever it is that you want in life, then you will realise that we are no different than these tiny birds. What ideas have you had that you are not letting ‘break free’ into reality? What is the ‘shell’ that is holding that idea from breaking through into the reality of your life? Are you aware of that creative impulse and you really want to do something about it, or are you putting your head in the sand and ignoring that life giving energy that is telling you to go after something else in your life?

The science continues to come through backing up what has been said for a couple of milleniums.  We can create, or co-create depending on your beliefs, your reality. So many of us have been brought up to believe that, “this is the way my life is and that is the way it will continue to be.” But the science is showing that those beliefs are no longer considered to be true. Just like when people had to face the reality that the world isn’t flat. It can be hard to wrap our heads around when we have held a certain belief for so long. Those things we have dreamed about could change the life of not only ourselves and our family, but maybe have even bigger impact further afield. So what is it that you have been incubating in the sand of your life? Is it time to let it break free from the constraints of that heavy sand? Is this email enough for you to say, “Dammit, I’ll get started with a small step today?”

Enjoy shaking the weight of that sand off your shoulders and take that first baby step!

Are You Expecting Love or Hostility in the World?



“Loving people living in a loving world. Hostile people live in in a hostile world. Same world.  Wayne Dyer

I have an audio recording of Wayne Dyer talking about an incident where he was walking along the beach & met some people coming in the opposite direction. They exchanged words. The couple were new to the district so they were asking Wayne what sort of people lived there. His reply was to ask them where were they from and how had they found living there. They had only complaints and grizzles about their old town. Wayne replied that they would probably find the people here the same.

A little further down the beach he met another couple who stopped to talk. They also were new to the district and asked Wayne about the people in their new area. He replied by asking them also about how had they found the town that they had come from. Their reply was to say how lovely the people were and how much they were going to miss them. Wayne replied that they would probably find the people here the same.

I have never forgotten that short story about the expectations that we have of our environment and how we can influence it purely because of how we think and engage with those around us. Knowing this story, I was able to apply this principle to a situation I was in. I was feeling decidedly ‘out’ of circulation with those around me at an event. That night I purposely changed my view of how it would be the next day so that I wouldn’t go in expecting the same relationships. My day was completely different and how I had envisioned it being the night before. That taught me a big lesson about how much we can influence the outcomes in our lives.

Enjoy influencing your life’s outcomes!

Have You Got the Courage the Follow Your Beliefs?



“Acquire the courage to believe in yourself. Many of the things that you have been taught were at one time the radical ideas of individuals who had the courage to believe what their own hearts and minds told them was true, rather than accept the common beliefs of their day.”   Ching Ning Chu

I am just re-reading “The Biology of Belief,” by Bruce Lipton. It is a powerful book & this present edition is the 10th. Our knowledge about beliefs is growing all the time, so he is constantly having to rewrite some parts to keep up with the new knowledge. He talks about the human brain being able to acquire perceptions from our teachers, and once we accept these perceptions as truths they become hardwired into our brains and then become truths. These truths that we have taken on from parents, significant adults, siblings and teachers, may be inappropriate and limiting and definitely habitual. All his research leads to the fact that our beliefs control our biology.

We also have an inner knowing that may refute the knowledge we are fed from those in authority. An example is that of the pharmaceutical companies who are pushing hard to have us believe that their drugs are the miracle cure for whatever. There are more and more people choosing to believe a different message, to make up their own minds about whether they want to resort to drugs with the side effects or not. I’m not saying that we shouldn’t use the prescriptions that are available, but as Ching Ning Chu is saying, we have the choice to follow a different message if our hearts and minds decide it is in our best interest, to have the courage to ignore those common beliefs, of the medical profession and pharmaceutical companies.

Enjoy standing up for what your heart and mind decide is right for you!

What is That One Thing to do Today?



“Do all you can, with what you have in the time you have, in the place you are.” Nkosi

Nkosi was 12 when he died from aids. Before he did he became known for this quote as he influenced those around him with his spirit for life.

What is the one thing that, if you practised on a regular basis, you know, would improve your life? There is no growth in your comfort zone. Nature uses a birth canal to bring about new life. So if you’re feeling squeezed right now, it is because something is seeking to be born in you today. Breaking free of our negative conditioning requires us to challenge the limiting thoughts we have & take a step no matter how small, away from the conditioning we know is keeping us small.

If this resonates with you, make a decision that for a week you will take a little step today & tomorrow. In a weeks time you will be able to look back & see the progress you have made, without the judgement that it hasn’t been enough. If you continue to do this for a year you will have taken 365 steps towards your desires/dream – more than if you hadn’t taken any at all.

Enjoy doing all you can from where you are!

Driving Around in Circles?



“The number one reason most people don’t get what they want is that they don’t know what they want. Clarity is power.”   T. Harv Eker

I have clients who come to see me who are at the crossroads in their life for very many reasons. One of the first things I do, is to get out the map or GPS and sort out where it is that they are going. Just like going for a trip in the car, if we don’t know where we are going, we are not going to be able to put the coordinates into the system. We could drive around in circles getting nowhere. We need to know where we are now and where it is that we are headed. Life is no different. A lot of women who no longer have children at home and who haven’t thought about what they want for a long time, have lost the ability to dream about their future. They can get frustrated when I ask them what is they would like, in say 12 months, and they have no idea.

Getting clear on that dream and the challenges they see that they may have to negotiate, are essential if they are going to get out of the driveway. Some people, as I say, have forgotten how to dream, because they haven’t had the necessary practice for a long time. Others weren’t encouraged as a child to do the dreaming that most of us do when we are little. The experts are now encouraging youngsters to tap into that part of them that has a knowing about the path to take. In my day, children who sang or danced in front of others was considered precocious. What if that is the core of who they are and they could be the next winner of New Zealand has talent? Many children are encouraged to go down a professional path by their professional family, but they really don’t want to. It is never too late to ‘jump ship,’ and follow the calling of your inner being. But being clear is the starting point.

Enjoy following your clear dream!

Are you Living Your Dreams our Your Fears?



“Too many of us are not living our dreams, because we are living our fears.”

My journey along this personal development started with a state of fear that for a long time wouldn’t let me go. This was mainly because I didn’t know how to. Dreams that my husband and I had been working towards together had all gone when he died. I had forgotten how to dream on my own and the fear had taken over and I didn’t know how to change the track on the record. I was told that nature abhors a vacuum, and if I let the fears go, I could attract more pleasant and positive things into my life. It took me a while to get that combination right for me. After 2 or 3 ‘failures,’ I found the love I have for coaching pop up, and the fear disappeared. I’m not saying the fear has gone for good and I’m not sure that’s a reality anyway. But rather than the fear being in control, I have taken that job back now.

We are all different and for some, this scary step of moving through the fear into the unknown may be more difficult than for others. We may have an awareness that it isn’t ok to fail so it takes more focus, courage, and determination to pursue the dreams we want.  For others who are blessed with more ‘get up and go,’ and belief in themselves, it may be easier and they may find it hard to understand what the fearful ones are going through. However you have probably heard that challenges make us stronger and we could learn more from the experiences that we have worked through. So give yourself some time each day to dream, this may help the steps we need to take to surface, and yes we may feel some fear but we will all feel so much better about ourselves if take the first step and then the next. Before you know it, you’ll be living at least part of your dream.

Enjoy moving towards your dream!

Opportunity can Knock at Any Time! Are You Ready?



“Even when opportunity knocks, a person still has to get up off their seat & open the door.”

It’s interesting that I should see this quote today. I have been following one of the online gurus for a while who has just put out a book called “Opportunity.” Apparently it is about how to find and create opportunities in your business and your life. After studying and interviewing hundreds of millionaire and billionaire leaders , his number one discovery was that They were better at finding and creating opportunity in their lives. They were also better choosing the best ones, then growing those opportunities to success.

Unfortunately we often have threats or challenges between us and the thing we want to achieve. We can all choose different ways to handle those challenges. As a coach one of my tasks is to help people find what their challenges are. Often they know that something is blocking them but we need to find what their beliefs, their thoughts or their self-image is all about before they can find the blocks, deal with them and move forward. We have all had different experiences as children and growing up, that have created beliefs about the world that are not a truth for other people who have had different experiences. Often it only takes a minor tweak to get these people seeing the opportunities and moving towards them with more confidence and trust in themselves.

Enjoy finding the opportunities and choosing the best ones!

What do I do Now?



“Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.”  Wayne Dyer

I often talk about the choices we have in life and here I’ve found another quote relating to the choices we all have in every minute of the day. Sometimes of course the old conditioned mind chips in and ruins the best of intentions. It chips in and tells us that things are not the way they’re supposed to be, it tells us we haven’t achieved what we should have and it tells us how bad we are feeling because someone said something that wasn’t how we wanted it. I’m pleased that I have the choice. I can continue to work on being a person I’m more proud of because I haven’t let those outside situations affect me so strongly.

We’re all a work in progress and we can choose in any given moment whether we want to be miserable about those events that weren’t perfect, or we can choose to believe we can change our perspective, we can see the story from another perspective, we can feel compassion for not only the other person who we have reacted to, but also for ourselves for the choices we have made. I am so pleased that we have this choice, we don’t have to accept everything that happens like a true victim. What if I was to believe that there is always two sides to look at things and I have the choice to find the other way, find a way of seeing the gift in the situation, see the learning that will make me stronger next time that situation arises.

Enjoy choosing life on a moment to moment basis!