“I cannot always control what goes on outside. But I can always control what goes on inside.” Wayne Dyer
Although Wayne says this with conviction, I know a lot of us don’t feel we have the ability to control what goes on inside much either. The subconscious mind remembers everything that has happened to us over the years and it seems to have the upper hand even when we are really trying hard in a conscious way to be different, do things differently and feel differently about the world around us and about ourselves. Often when we are under stress for any number of reasons, the old tried and true patterns rear their ugly heads no matter how hard we try. Right at the moment I am going through a stressful situation with my dad’s health, and it is interesting to see how we all revert to patterns that were there when we were children.
As Wayne says though, we can control what goes on inside if we have the will to do so. It just may not be as easy as he makes it sound. Having an awareness of what we are doing is a start. If we are not aware, how will we know what we want to change? It’s a matter of tracking our behaviour, being present in the moment, on a regular basis. Notice what we are happy with and what we are not. What are we feeling physically and emotionally and what changes we would like to make right here and now! At the very least we can vow to do better next time and even put some strategies in place of how we might be better next time. It’s only by going through regular mindfulness as the day progresses that we can turn the tide of behaviours that no longer serve us. Probably never have! We do not have to sit like a yogi to be mindful. Being able to incorporate the reflection or mindfulness as we go through life is more likely to bring the results we want when busy and stressed.
Enjoy tracking what you are feeling regularly throughout the day!