“To fear is one thing. To let fear grab you by the tail and swing you around is another.” Katherine Paterson.
Fear is a very real emotion, there to keep us safe. To stop us stepping out in front of a train at full throttle, or walking over Niagra Falls on a tight rope, when you have had no prior training.
However, to allow a perceived threat to arouse the same stress response in the body, is a complete waste of time, but most of us have probably indulged ourselves at some time or other. What we allow our minds to come up with can cause a lot of unnecessary worry, worrying over “False Evidence Appearing Real.” When we realise, that most of what we fear is based on a thought we have had, we can start to make different choices about how we feel & behave. Byron Katie, has put together what she calls, ‘The Work.’ In it she suggests that we ask ourselves 4 questions: “Is it true?” (If no go to question 3.) “Can you absolutely know that it’s true?” (yes or no) “How do you react, what happens when you believe that thought?” “Who would you be without the thought?” When you recognise that your fear is based solely on a thought and go through these 4 steps then turn your thoughts around to have a new perspective, the fear no longer controls or dominates you.
Enjoy turning those fears around! Robyn