“Never regret anything that has happened in your life. It cannot be changed, undone or forgotten. So take it as a lesson learned and move on.
I am who I am today because of the choice I made yesterday.” Eleanor Roosevelt
I was watching an interesting talk recently from Kathryn Schultz entitled “Don’t Regret Regret.” She brought up two facts from research about being unable to regret. Apparently this inability is one of the diagnostics of a sociopath and also characteristic of some brain damage particularly in the frontal lobes. She quotes regret as, ”an emotion we experience when we think our present situation could be better or happier if we had done something different in the past.”
Apart from some interesting facts, she finished off her presentation by saying, that regret is one of our most important lessons. It teaches us that when we have goals and dreams, we want to do our best and we don’t want to hurt the people we love, so we should feel pain if things go wrong. However her final point was that it is OK to have regrets but that we shouldn’t hate ourselves for having them. We need to love the flawed imperfect situations we have created, and forgive ourselves for creating them. They remind us not that we did badly, but that we could do better.
Enjoy feeling regrets and learn the lesson!