“Courage is not the absence of fear but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” Nelson Mandela
This is where my journey into Life Coaching started. Feeling fear for pretty much the first time. Yes I have felt fear before an exam or before stepping out on to the balance pole several metres above the ground – even though I had a harness on, but this was different. I was with a group of people who were feeling excited about the situation we were in. I asked if anyone else was feeling fear and they looked at me as though I was a bit strange. We are told that both excitement and fear produce the same hormones or chemicals in our body. But it is our perception of that feeling that links the word with it. I would wake with it each morning, have it hang around as a low-grade anxiety all day and then when I finally fell asleep I was no longer aware of it.
As I went through the process of learning to coach, I found some different tools and techniques to change my perception. The problem was, my Mum, bless her, didn’t want us to get disappointed about things that could be coming up, so she frequently said to us, “don’t get too excited it might never happen.” So I suppose I forgot how to feel excited. I can now, all beit a little more watered down than some. I’m still working on exercising the courage and excited muscles, and it feels so good when I am able to really feel that nervous energy with a sense that it is feels good not something to be fearful of. Real fear is there to keep us safe from danger. But often our brains think they are keeping us safe when really all that has happened is, we have had a thought about a situation that drags out past experiences and makes up wonderful stories that send us down the slippery slope of fear.
Enjoy feeling the courage to move through the fear!