“Beware of destination addiction: The idea that happiness is in the next place, the next job or even with the next partner. Until you give up the idea that happiness is somewhere else, it will never be where you are.”
I’m in an online exercise programme that has a face book group for connection and interaction. Inevitably people are exercising to lose some unwanted weight and when they do, they are happy that they have achieved their goal. I haven’t been in such a supportive group before. Even if people are struggling for whatever reason, there is always a group of others who give them a pep talk, who encourage them and help them, at least outwardly, to accept the need to continue and enjoy ‘pushing play,’ as they all say. There are some who have a lot of weight to lose but the fact they have lost any weight at all is an achievement, and encouragement to continue. Most don’t want to seem negative so although they may talk of things not going to plan they are putting a brave face on it. But who knows what they are feeling under the outward optimism we are seeing.
At the end of the day you are the only one who knows if you are faking it or whether you do actually feel happy in the moment, even though you may not have achieved the outcome you really think you want. What is the pep talk you give yourself to genuinely feel happy for others who achieved what you haven’t? Are you able to rely on yourself, no matter what, to be grateful for what is going on in your life and feel the happiness you know is going to maintain a better physiology? A better physiology is your heart rate, blood pressure, breathing and muscle tension. If you have to wait for something else to happen in your life or wait for someone to do something that creates your happiness, you have less opportunities to be happy and you could be waiting for the rest of your life. As the quote says, that happiness you seek will always be at the end of the rainbow, in a new job or a new partner, not in you right now, right where you are.
Enjoy finding the happiness from within and improving your physiology!