“When a person takes responsibility for their life and the results they are obtaining, they will cease to blame others as the cause of their results. Since you cannot change other people, blame is inappropriate. Blaming others causes a person to remain bound in a prison of their own making. When you take responsibility, blame is eliminated and you are free to grow.” Val Van de Wall
One of the ways I earn finances is to supervise 3rd year physio students when they are in the outpatient department of the hospital. Getting patients to turn up can be an issue. This means the students are not getting this essential learning practice. I had one patient who didn’t turn up for the 2nd time last week & when I rang her, she had all the excuses but the hospital policy has changed & after 2 strikes you’re out. I thought of this quote about how some people cannot take responsibility for putting the appointment down where they can see it, putting it in their phone or whatever it takes. Yes we can all forget once but….. They don’t have to pay so no skin in the game as the saying goes.
As Van de Wall says, we can’t change other people so blaming them & the situation you have got yourself in doesn’t create the results you are after. The only way to do that is to start to make changes in yourself. It doesn’t have to be all at once, just small steps, small intentions every day to do something differently, and you’ll soon notice that things have changed. Often it helps to have an accountability buddy and even if you can’t see the subtle changes you have made, they usually can. Once you can see how you alone made the changes, it is an incentive to start changes elsewhere in your life. Slowly but surely, different opportunities will turn up in your life. You may have felt stuck but now you can see that you have broken free from the prison that you had created for yourself in your old life. You will be free to grow in the direction you want rather than where you were going by default.
Enjoy taking over the responsibility of your life!