“When you are strong enough to love yourself 100%, good and bad – you will be amazed at the opportunities that life presents you.” Stacey Charter
The emphasis here is ‘good and bad.’ So what is bad to you? I bet there would be a lot of differences in your definition and mine because we have had different upbringings with families and cultures that place different emphasis on different behaviours, and this can also be affected as to whether you are male or female. What if you came into the world believing that all behaviours are acceptable, as I’m sure we all do? And we had no one telling us that to be loved we had to be sweet and pleasant all the time and show no anger or other behaviours that were deemed ‘negative?’
The trouble is, as we grow up and leave the nest we take on the judgements of our parents and society and continue condemning ourselves daily for something we have done or haven’t done that is not acceptable. Each time we do this it is just like someone else criticising us and it hurts just as much. It affects the love we feel for ourselves and some of us can be pretty cutting at times! We are often more lenient with others than ourselves. So how much better do you think you would feel if you were able to turn around those cutting, destructive comments to yourself, and replace them with encouraging comments, how much more empowered you could feel? Remember we all have the potential to display every emotion and they are all just energy in motion!
Enjoy letting go of the self-judgements! Robyn