“Communication is critical to developing mutually beneficial and mutually enjoyable relationships. Relationships require trust, and one of the best ways to develop trust is to focus on helping the other person feel heard and understood.” Jack Canfield
There are a lot of different tests out there that we can put ourselves through, so that we can understand a bit more about ourselves and what makes us tick. Some businesses put their employees through one of these for example the DISC process. This is meant to help us understand what makes other people on the staff tick as well. In doing so we learn to understand that not everyone thinks like us or reacts to circumstances like us. Oh, were it that simple! We may have been born with certain genetics that predispose us to behave in a certain way, but more importantly the conditioning we have had from our parents and other significant adult have a profound influence on the way we think, believe and act.
If we can accept that the other family members or staff are not actually out to get us, or trips us up, we may be able to see that like you they are just trying to do the best they can from their own set of beliefs and conditioning. Do you think this would then help you to trust those around you more? What if you were to have compassion and understanding for those contributing to your life in any way, and follow the basic need for us all – to be heard and understood? In business we are being taught all the time that people will do business with those who they know like and trust. Our day-to-day relationships are no different. What if you were to ask open ended questions of your family and friends, and really listen to their reply without thinking of what you are going to say next? If they feel they are being heard, you should find these relationships open up.
Enjoy really communicating in your relationships!