“Christmas gives us the opportunity to pause and reflect on the important things around us – a time when we can look back on the year that has passed and prepare for the year ahead.” David Cameron
I’m not sure that I agree with this quote entirely. Reflection on the important things is always a great start for this special day. But to me that includes forgetting all about business, goals and plans, for one day at least. I have worked in hospitals on Christmas Day helping sick people and if you are in a profession or service based job that is needed on Christmas Day, then it can be very rewarding to help make this special day go as well as it can, without too many major hitches. However if you are lucky enough to be with loved ones or friends then I think the only intention we should have is to work at the conversations you will be having with people who find it very easy to push your buttons. They know you very well and they may have another agenda from you, about how the day should look.
As human beings we all have a fundamental need to be right. One of the best gifts we can give is our presence without judgement. This does not mean that it is easy, but if you go in with the intention of really listening to the other person before you respond you may find the conversations go better. Once the day is over and you are pleased with how it went because you responded better than you may have in the past, then you can look back not just at that day but the whole of 2016 and reflect on the changes you can make to help create an improved 2017. This challenge, should you choose to accept it, could be the start of better relationships in the future. I’m certainly up for it. How about joining me and let me know how it went.
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