Have you heard of shadow work? Debbie Ford wrote a great book, “The Dark Side of the Light Chasers.” In it she talks about how we all have aspects of ourselves that we don’t want others to know about because we’ve been brought up to believe that those aspects are not acceptable in some way. However my beliefs about unacceptable behaviour may be completely different from yours or other cultures. This may not be conscious but when we see it in others & it ‘pushes our buttons’ it can actually be a lesson for us to examine why we have such an aversion to their behaviour.
And strange as it may seem, there are ‘gifts’ in those shadows that emerge as we shine the light on them. The gifts that Gibran talks about. There is a Law of Polarity that says, there are 2 sides to everything, so if you can be intolerant you can also be tolerant. The joy is in being able to accept that you could be something you absolutely don’t want to own, we all could be. In the same way, that if you notice some great things in others & don’t believe you can be that either, then you are shutting yourself off from living from the full spectrum of emotions & behaviours. Start noticing what is irritating you in others & check in to where are you, or could you be that & what is the gift!
Enjoy finding those gifts!