“Care about what other people think of you and you will always be their prisoner.”
I’m sure most of us have done this at some stage in our lives and although I might not be intending to, there may be times when I still do if I was being honest. With some of our beliefs being hidden in our subconscious mind, we may not be aware that we are behaving in this way. We may think we are helping someone because we like helping people. In fact we are helping because we have learnt over the years that people appreciate your help and it feels good when they praise us. We may have made a decision at a very young age that we need to behave in a certain way for mum & dad to love us. It’s probably not true but we kept trying to impress not only them but our teachers and other significant adults in our lives as we were growing up. That becomes a habit & we believe that everyone behaves in the same way.
But they don’t! They may have made other decisions that are not true either, but they have different things to learn as they journey through this thing called life. So recognising what the decisions are that you made and the beliefs that you have about yourself and your life, is crucial to you making changes to how you operate. Now don’t get me wrong, we don’t have to make changes because we are broken or that there is something wrong with us. If we have a realisation that we are not being or doing who we know deep down inside we are, then we can feel that something isn’t quite right. If we’re living someone else’s dream and trying to be something we’re not just to please them, then we’re not being the best version of us. This can feel empty and not fulfilling us.
Enjoy being the best version of yourself & feel fulfilled doing that!!