“The best teachers are those who show you where to look, but don’t tell you what to see.” Alexandra K Trenfor
As I said last week a big part of my job is to help people gain a new perspective on their lives. It can be very tempting to give others advice, to tell them what they should do when you think they need some help. Even if they come to you expecting advice the best thing we can do for them is to use our ‘active listening skills.’ This involves being present, showing them you are listening with the odd gesture or sound that is appropriate and getting clarification about what you think you have heard. Never assume that what you have heard means the same to the other person as it does to you.
The authentic part of us has all the answers to our lives and the same for the person in front of us telling us their story. I have spent a lot of my life looking ‘up’ to others for advice and guidance and not giving enough credence to the information from within. I have had people in my life who have been active and passive teachers and I have learnt a lot, as we all do along the way. I have also had some key ‘coaches’ who have drawn out from me, my own answers for whatever I’m facing up to in life at the time. This is the difference I believe between a teacher and a coach. None of us knows the path of anyone else so asking questions to draw their own answers out from within will be more empowering at the end of the day.
Enjoy searching for your own answers! Robyn